Once-prominent Mormon gay conversion therapist reveals he is gay and wants a partner after admitting ‘experiencing attractions to men’ while married to former wife
- David Matheson, a Mormon gay conversion therapist, has revealed he is gay
- In a Facebook post he said he realized one year ago that he could no longer stay married to his wife of 34 years
- He said he experienced attractions to men which ‘were very intense and led to pain and struggle’ in his relationship
- Matheson is the author of the book Becoming a Whole Man and creator of several experimental programs to address ‘incongruous same-sex attractions’
David Matheson, a Mormon gay conversion therapist, has revealed he is gay
A prominent Mormon gay conversion therapist has revealed he is gay and is looking for a boyfriend.
The development broke Sunday night after the LGBTQ nonprofit Truth Wins Out obtained a private Facebook post made by fellow conversion therapist Rich Wyler.
The post stated that Matheson ‘says that living a single, celibate life ‘just isn’t feasible for him,’ so he’s seeking a male partner.
‘David…says that living a single, celibate life ‘just isn’t feasible’ for him, so he’s seeking a male partner. He has gone from bisexuality to exclusively gay.’
Matheson confirmed the revelation with his own Facebook post, claiming he realized that he ‘had to make substantial changes’ in his life.
‘I realized I couldn’t stay in my marriage any longer. And I realized that it was time for me to affirm myself as gay.
‘Toward the end of this decline, I also realized that being in an intimate relationship with a man was no longer something I wanted to avoid.
‘It had become a non-negotiable need.’
Matheson is author of the book ‘Becoming a whole man’ and creator of several experimental programs which seek to ‘address incongruous same-sex attractions’, Newsweek reported.
He also co-wrote the ‘Journey Into Manhood’ program, which reinforced teachings in reparative therapy world that being gay stemmed primarily from an inability to relate to masculine activities, the Advocate reported.
Matheson claimed he enjoyed a happy and fulfilling marriage to his wife for 34 years and being ‘straight’ became a core part of my identity.
However he said he also experienced attractions to men.
Matheson is the author of the book Becoming a Whole Man and creator of several experimental programs to address ‘incongruous same-sex attractions’
Matheson detailed his decision to come out with a Facebook post and the struggles he endured throughout his 34 year long marriage to a woman
So-called gay conversion therapy is a pseudo-scientific practice that seeks to change a person’s sexual orientation or gender identity.
Talk therapy is currently the most commonly used technique, but some practitioners have also combined this with ‘aversion treatments,’ such as induced vomiting or electric shocks, according to a 2018 report by UCLA’s Williams Institute.
In his post, Matheson admitted that he used to be ‘caught in an ideological prison of my own’ He also acknowleged that he had hurt people during the course of his work.
He said: ‘Not that I would excuse myself, but any shortcomings I had as a therapist came from too narrow a view of what “emotionally healthy” can look like.
‘They came from my own homophobia and narrow mindedness.
‘I am truly sorry for those flaws and the harm they have surely caused some people. And I’m sorry for the confusion and pain my choice may be causing others.’
He stopped short of fully denouncing conversion therapy as almost every major health association has done.
But he said he was a ‘much more accepting’ person than he was six years ago.
He added: ‘If my coming out could change one thing, other than my own life, it would be to encourage people to really own and feel confident about their life path and to pursue it without fear or shame—regardless of what others might think.’