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People are calling BS on the concept of micro-cheating

For most couples, there’s no grey area when it comes to cheating.

But a new concept referred to as ‘micro-cheating’ has people divided about whether or not it even exists. 

Speaking to Femail, Australian psychologist Melanie Schilling explained that micro-cheating is a series of small actions that can indicate a person is emotionally or physically focused on someone outside of the relationship. 

Viral: People are calling out the concept of micro-cheating on Twitter – a phrase used to describe a form of cheating that is so subtle, most people don’t realize they’re doing it

Dumped: Forms of micro-cheating involve engaging with a person on social media, sharing private jokes or downplaying the seriousness of your relationship but people aren't buying it

Dumped: Forms of micro-cheating involve engaging with a person on social media, sharing private jokes or downplaying the seriousness of your relationship but people aren’t buying it

Purely platonic: Many people have also suggested it's human nature to see the beauty in others but this doesn't equate to cheating 

Purely platonic: Many people have also suggested it’s human nature to see the beauty in others but this doesn’t equate to cheating 

Control: Hundreds of people are taking to Twitter to question the validity of the concept, saying it encourages abusive behavior

Control: Hundreds of people are taking to Twitter to question the validity of the concept, saying it encourages abusive behavior

This can include engaging with a person on social media, sharing private jokes, and downplaying the seriousness of your relationship.

Schilling also suggested that secrecy is a big part of micro-cheating as partners leave out information or don’t reveal certain facts about who they are talking to or what they are talking about.

‘These are all signs that you are conducting a “covert flirtation” and keeping it from your partner. If you feel you have something to hide – ask yourself why,’ she added.  

But it seems most people aren’t buying it, with hundreds taking to Twitter to call out the concept as ‘stupid’, ‘BS’ and ‘controlling’. 

Clinical psychologist @DrDavidLey wrote: ‘Claims of “micro-cheating,” like “emotional infidelity” and “financial infidelity” are insidious ways to expand therapist’s intrusion into all aspects of normal life, feeding on the anxiety they induce by pathologizing every life problem encountered.’

And @fakedansavage typed: ‘P.S. Micro-cheating is not a thing. You know who regards these sorts of behaviors as cheating? Abusers.’

A sentiment shared by @weescotslass who tweeted: ‘I saw this nonsense earlier. Are we moving on from the concept that restricting a partner’s friends is domestically abusive? I can’t keep up with this pish.’

‘But if you start labeling your anxiety triggers “micro cheating” or accuse your partner of doing something immoral, then yeah then it starts seeming more liket toxic possessiveness,’ @Eremitpurpur wrote.

For @lost_limey, the concept didn’t make sense: ‘As far as I can tell “micro-cheating” means having friends and/or colleagues? It’s obviously all BS’.

Twitter user @kimberleecline suggested it all boiled down to insecurity, and wrote: ‘People who believe in #microcheating are too insecure to ever have a healthy romantic relationship. Don’t @ me. #NotSorry’. 

Joker: Others have poked fun at the concept

Joker: Others have poked fun at the concept

Not inclusive: Lots of people have also commented that micro-cheating only seems to relate to heterosexual couples and ignores homosexual relationships

Not inclusive: Lots of people have also commented that micro-cheating only seems to relate to heterosexual couples and ignores homosexual relationships

Friendship: Another person commenting on the subject suggested that micro-cheating was the same as having friends 

Friendship: Another person commenting on the subject suggested that micro-cheating was the same as having friends 

Not buying it: Another man agreed with the sentiment that micro-cheating simply described close friendships 

Not buying it: Another man agreed with the sentiment that micro-cheating simply described close friendships 

Not skirting the issue: Another joked that people should be more worried about actual cheating 

Not skirting the issue: Another joked that people should be more worried about actual cheating 

Inside joke: One woman ridiculed the concept that inside jokes with members of the opposite sex is cheating

Inside joke: One woman ridiculed the concept that inside jokes with members of the opposite sex is cheating

And @Goldierocks shared that view: ‘This #Microcheating malarkey is just such a load of old tosh! We should be embracing human connection, common understanding, touch & deep connections & affection is good for you! Good for the world, good for your relationship. Spread the love’.

While @mathenarrow wrote: ‘Micro-cheating? Oh, you mean: Having friends who are women? Having female friends you don’t feel the need to sleep with? Hanging out with women without the intent of getting in their pants? What a revolutionary concept.’

Several people also noted that the concept of micro-cheating seemed to only relate to heterosexual couples, and ignored same sex relationships. 

Twitter user @jitterary shared: ‘from reading about this “micro cheating” thing, it seems a lot like an extension of the infamous “can men and women really be friends?” idea that straight people worry about.’

She added: ‘if we follow the ideas of “micro cheating” then as a lesbian with close friends who are girls, I’m cheating on my girlfriend every time I have a deep conversation with them… and when I tell them I love them?? I might as well be the worst serial cheater ‘.

And @foxpajamas suggested, ‘straight people are so insecure about their relationships that they created micro cheating just to further control their partners’.

A Thought Catalog piece coined the phrase ‘micro-cheating’ to describe a form of cheating that is so subtle, most people don’t realize they’re even doing it. 

 



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