A 17-year-old has revealed how she was shamed by a group of adults who cruelly commented on her homecoming dress on Facebook, claiming it was ‘trashy’ and she was asking to ‘get raped.’
Grace Brumfield, a junior at a high school in Alabama, went viral earlier this month when she shared a TikTok video featuring her homecoming photos followed by the hateful comments she received.
Brumfield told BuzzFeed the black mini dress that she wore was altered and customized to look like a modern version of Princess Diana’s famous black revenge dress.
Say what? Grace Brumfield, a junior at a high school in Alabama, revealed on TikTok that she was shamed by a group of adult women over her homecoming dress
Special moment: The 17-year-old posed for photos with her boyfriend, Zach, in a field of sunflowers ahead of the dance
Young love: The images show them posing side by side, gazing into each other’s eyes, and sharing a sweet kiss
Ahead of the dance, she and her boyfriend, Zach, took their homecoming pictures in a sunflower field that was planted in memorial of a fellow student who passed away last year.
The images show them posing side by side, gazing into each other’s eyes, and sharing a sweet kiss.
‘I loved how my pics for homecoming came out,’ she explained in the video’s captions. ‘My boyfriend’s mom posted them on Facebook… This was the feedback on the photos…’
Following the slideshow of her homecoming photos were screenshots of the comments that strangers — mostly adult women — left on the post that was shared on the Sunflowers and Daisies Facebook group.
‘Whew my mama woulda killed if I dressed like that and my dad would’ve killed my date if he put his hands on my lower half,’ one person wrote.
Inspiration: Brumfield told BuzzFeed the black mini dress that she wore (right) was altered and customized to look like a modern version of Princess Diana’s famous revenge dress (left)
Start of it all: Her boyfriend’s mom shared the photos on the Sunflowers and Daisies Facebook group, where it quickly amassed thousands of likes and comments
Going viral: Brumfield shared a TikTok video featuring her homecoming photos and the comments she received
‘Wow. Did her parents see her in that way?’ another asked. ‘Way too short and looks trashy on such a pretty girl. Leave something to the imagination, no need to put it ALL out there.’
However, one of the worst messages came from a woman who claimed the teen’s dress was an invitation for sexual assault.
‘That dress is inappropriate. You don’t have to show private parts to get attention. ‘You will get the wrong kind of attention,’ she commented. ‘Girls wonder why they get raped. Don’t dress like you are asking for it. And, no, I’m not jealous. I’m disgusted that girls dress like tramps instead of beautiful young women.’
In a follow-up video, Brumfield shared a screenshot of the response she sent to the stranger defending her outfit choice and reminding her that she was talking about a teen girl.
‘Hey! I’m the 17yr old in that picture that you, a grown woman, are talking about,’ she wrote. ‘I was not dressed like a “tramp.” My dress was fingertip length, my parents (who are 60 and 52) both approved of the dress, and I had on shorts underneath.
Cruel: Commenters shamed over over the dress, including one person who said the dress looked ‘trashy’
Confusing: Many of the negative comments came from adult women who were mothers and grandmothers
Wild response: One person even insinuated that the teen looked like an escort, accusing her boyfriend of ‘paying for a homecoming date’
‘I hold myself to a very high standard because of my sport and I’m a pageant girl as well,’ added Brumfield, who is a baton twirler.
‘I’m also 4’11” so I had my dress altered to look good on MY BODY and to fit MY HEIGHT. Nice try tho ma’am. I hope you have a nice day and I hope you don’t call yourself a Christian when you’re calling a 17yr old a tramp.’
Brumfield told BuzzFeed she was ‘shocked’ by the comments, noting that most of the women ‘were all mothers and grandmothers.’
She was particularly taken aback by the woman who said she was ‘asking to be raped’ based on the way she was dressed.
‘As a victim of sexual assault, it just made my blood boil because clothes are not the reasons that men and women are assaulted,’ she said.
Crossing the line: One of the worst messages came from a woman who claimed the teen’s dress was an invitation for sexual assault
Take that: In a follow-up video, Brumfield shared a screenshot of the response she sent to the stranger defending her outfit choice
Commentary: Brumfield’s video has been viewed more than 10.2 million times, and many people offered her love and support in the comments
Brumfield’s video has been viewed more than 10.2 million times and has received nearly 60,000 comments, with many people offering her love and support.
‘Raise your hand if you didn’t even notice the dress or length b/c you don’t feel the need to sexualize people an view them as objects,’ one person wrote, while another added: ‘Not every last one of them sexualizing you while calling you a child…’
The teen has also received support from her parents, her boyfriend, and her boyfriend’s mom, who defended her against critics before the post was removed from the group.
‘I dress the way I dress because I know what looks good on my body and what makes me feel confident in my own skin,’ she told the outlet.
‘Nobody else has the right to tell someone to cover up more because it’s distracting — older men and women need to be taught to control themselves.’