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Adele says she went through ‘a lot of therapy’ to process her father’s death

Adele helped deal with her father death with ‘a lot of therapy’ and ‘a lot of time spent’ alone.

The Grammy-winning songstress explained how she processed her grief following dad Marc Evans’ May 2021 passing while opening up for Vogue’s latest cover. 

‘It was a lot of sound baths. It was a lot of meditation. It was a lot of therapy. And a lot of time spent on my own,’ the British beauty, 33, admitted.

Healing: Adele told Vogue she dealt with her father death with ‘a lot of therapy’ and ‘a lot of time spent’ alone

RIP: The Grammy winner had been estranged from her father for nearly a decade before his death, but she says they made 'peace' before he passed at 57-years-old

RIP: The Grammy winner had been estranged from her father for nearly a decade before his death, but she says they made ‘peace’ before he passed at 57-years-old

Marc and Adele had a complicated relationship through his life.

He split with her mom when the singer was a toddler and was largely absent during the star’s childhood.

Later when she became famous, he was caught selling stories to the UK tabloid The Sun, leading to a nearly decade long estrangement.

But the Hello songstress was willing to forgive him before his passing from cancer at age 57, telling Vogue: ‘I know he loved me, and we actually got our peace before he died.’

Still, after his death she found her anxiety continue to creep in at unexpected times.

‘I’d have a lovely night with my friends and then I’d wake up like a tsunami was coming for me.’ 

Anxiety: Adele suffered serious anxiety and sought out therapy to process her feelings. 'I'd have a lovely night with my friends and then I'd wake up like a tsunami was coming for me,' she remembered

Anxiety: Adele suffered serious anxiety and sought out therapy to process her feelings. ‘I’d have a lovely night with my friends and then I’d wake up like a tsunami was coming for me,’ she remembered

‘I remember sitting [outside] with two of my friends and I was like, When will I stop feeling like this? And they were like, In time.’ 

‘And I was like, Yeah, but how much time? And one of them cried and was just like, I don’t know. It’s gonna be a ride. And it was.’

While handling her father’s loss, she was still dealing with the emotional fallout from her 2019 split from ex-husband Simon Konecki, who she shares nearly-nine-year-old son Angelo with.

During her journey with therapy she came to find that many of her feelings about the divorce were intertwined with ‘issues’ with her dad, which she’d be ‘avoiding’ for years.

Adele worked through the dark feelings leftover from her childhood distance from her dad, grappling with the reality of being raised ‘Not being sure if someone who is supposed to love you loves you, and doesn’t prioritize you in any capacity when you’re little. You assume it and get used to it.’

Emotions: Through therapy she began to realize how her relationship with her father affected how she treated men in her life, like ex Simon Konecki, above in 2013

Emotions: Through therapy she began to realize how her relationship with her father affected how she treated men in her life, like ex Simon Konecki, above in 2013

Tough: Adele also began to find solace in the gym, telling Vogue 'It became my time. I realized that when I was working out, I didn't have any anxiety. It was never about losing weight'

Tough: Adele also began to find solace in the gym, telling Vogue ‘It became my time. I realized that when I was working out, I didn’t have any anxiety. It was never about losing weight’

Through therapy she began to see how her relationship with her father shaped the way she treated the other men in her life.

‘My relationship with men in general, my entire life, has always been: You’re going to hurt me, so I’ll hurt you first. It’s just toxic and prevents me from actually finding any happiness,’ the singer said.

Adele also began to find solace in the gym.

‘It became my time. I realized that when I was working out, I didn’t have any anxiety. It was never about losing weight,’ she explained.

Happy and healthy: Now, she's enjoying a healthy romantic relationship with boyfriend Rich Paul, above

Happy and healthy: Now, she’s enjoying a healthy romantic relationship with boyfriend Rich Paul, above 

‘I thought, If I can make my body physically strong, and I can feel that and see that, then maybe one day I can make my emotions and my mind physically strong.’

Talking about her anxiety these days, the chart-topper said: ‘I definitely learnt a lot of tools in my therapy, but I also just go with it. 

‘I find the anxiety gets worse when you try and get rid of it.’

Now, she’s enjoying a healthy romantic relationship with boyfriend Rich Paul.

‘We’re very happy,’ she told Vogue of the sports agent, who reps high-profile talent like LeBron James.

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