An African woman has been accused of ‘outshining’ the bride at the first ‘European wedding’ she attended.
The 27-year-old woman took to Reddit to share that she was ridiculed after she sported a green dress to a German wedding, despite asking if there was a dress code.
She explained that she had been living in Germany for quite some time and had formed a friendship with her 60-year-old colleague, who invited her to her daughter’s wedding.
Since she was told she needed to ‘dress to impress,’ the woman, 27, donned an embellished green gown, but she has now questioned if she was in the wrong in the Am I the A**hole subreddit after being slammed by her coworker and the bride.
An African woman has been accused of ‘outshining’ the bride at the first ‘European wedding’ she attended
The unnamed 27-year-old woman took to Reddit to share that she was ridiculed after she sported a green dress to a German wedding, despite asking if there was a dress code
‘So I, 27F, am a black African woman. I’m living and working in Germany for a fixed period,’ she said at the beginning of the post.
Then she explained that while working in Germany, she became ‘quite friendly’ with a colleague, 60, who invited her to her daughter’s wedding.
The African woman added: ‘I was excited as I’ve never been to a white wedding. I asked if there was a dress code/color scheme to adhere to since it wasn’t specified on the invite. I was told the code is “dress to impress.”‘
On the day of the wedding, she showed up in a green gown and thought she ‘understood the assignment.’
She saw her colleague while at the wedding, and noted that she seemed ‘colder’ than usual, however, she didn’t pay attention to it.
‘The bride is downright rude to me, but again I give her grace,’ she said.
The 27-year-old added: ‘I keep to the edges of the room as the music isn’t really my vibe, and I’m just observing how European weddings work.
‘I leave around 8[pm] (after five hours) and go home before the wedding finishes.’
She explained that she had been living in Germany for quite some time and had formed a friendship with her colleague, 60, who invited her to her daughter’s wedding (stock image)
When she went back to work on Monday, she noted that her coworkers were ‘more reserved than usual.’
She noted that one of her friends at the office pulled her aside and explained that the mother of the bride was ‘fuming’ because her green gown was ‘too extravagant.’
The 60-year-old accused her of ‘drawing attention from the bride’, being ‘rude’ and ‘disrespectful.’
The wedding guest noted that she asked her coworker to speak to her privately, however, she refused.
‘I explained to anyone who scolded me that this was my first white people wedding: I specifically asked what to do wear and followed the guidelines. Where I’m from, there’s no such thing as outshining the bride – weddings are a fashion show and a chance to wear your best and brightest clothes,’ she noted.
However, her coworker quipped back, ‘This isn’t Africa’, and told her that people in Germany ‘have manners.’
At the end of the post, she questioned if she was an a**hole.
Luckily, people on the web flooded to her defense and slammed her coworker.
One person said: ‘Your dress was gorgeous — you followed the instructions! I would be honored to have you attend my wedding. Your friend is not your friend… so sorry! Hold your head up & let your beauty shine. Not the a**hole.’
People on the web flooded to the woman’s defense and slammed her coworker
Another user added: ‘Exactly. They said dress to impress and you understood the assignment. They failed.’
Someone else commented: ‘I think some women are just insecure and petty. As long as you’re not dressed in white, then I think it should be fine! Weddings are an event to have fun, dress up and celebrate the new couple!’
One Redditor wrote: ‘I’m from Italy and here weddings are basically fashion shows, it’s even recommended to dress the best you can!
‘You don’t outshine the bride until you wear white.’
‘Big time not the a**hole. Now upload a picture of your dress,’ a commenter said.
Another Redditor added: ‘How drab was the bride if that would outshine her?! Your dress is lovely and in my opinion, very subtle and appropriate.’
Someone else said: ‘You know what, my opinion is that your coworker is just setting you up to fail. No matter what you wear, it was always going to be a gossip!’