Amy Smart is speaking up on her husband’s behalf.
The 41-year-old California native on Saturday posted a detailed message to Instagram defending her spouse, HGTV’s Carter Oosterhouse, after a makeup artist named Kailey Kaminsky told The Hollywood Reporter that Oosterhouse had coerced her into performing oral sex on him when they worked together nine years ago.
Smart posted the message – which reinforced her husband’s claim that the relationship was a consensual one – along with a shot of herself posed with Oosterhouse and their 11-month-old daughter, Flora.
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Stand by your man: Amy Smart, 41, posted a detailed message to Instagram on Saturday defending her spouse, HGTV’s Carter Oosterhouse, after a makeup artist accused him of past sexual misconduct. The couple posed with their daughter Flora
The Just Friends performer doubled down on Oosterhouse’s claim that his sexual interactions with Kaminsky were ‘100 [percent] mutual and consensual.’
She wrote, ‘When you are in a CONSENSUAL RELATIONSHIP, then you need to take responsibility for engaging in that and not play victim.’
Smart said ‘there are plenty of relationships’ she would have ‘different choices about’ in hindsight, but she’ll live with the decisions she made at the time, for better or worse.
‘We need to take responsibility,’ she wrote, ‘and learn from our mistakes and choices.’
Breaking her silence: Kailey Kaminsky (pictured) says she was pressured by Oosterhouse into giving him oral sex while working as a makeup artist on his show Carter Can
In defense: Oosterhouse says his relationship with Kaminsky was consensual, and the only intimate relationship he’s had with a crew member in his professional career. He was pictured last year in Burbank
The Varsity Blues star said that while the exposure of powerful men accused of sexual harassment and misconduct is ‘vital and important’ to the culture, the story about Oosterhouse ‘is now taking it too far and boundaries are being crossed.
‘The article is very damaging and cruel to one of the most kindest, loving, non-aggressive men I have the privilege of knowing,’ Smart wrote, ‘and I am so sorry for these salacious words being thrown around, they are extremely hurtful.’
Amy, who’s been seen this year in films such as The Keeping Hours and Love at First Glance, called out journalists reporting on the ongoing spate of sexual harassment and misconduct scandals aimed at prominent men – which this week included Oosterhouse and celeb chef Mario Batali, as well as additional allegations against previously-accused stars Dustin Hoffman and Russell Simmons.
‘This type of reporting needs to stop, it’s so damaging for personal lives and careers and just not fair,’ Smart wrote. ‘Enough is enough, this is a plea to the writers, outlets and media … [more] due diligence needs to be done before crafting headlines and stories.
‘Have discernment when you tell a story and please consider the source and story before just printing anything to get readers and viewers.’
Issuing caution: Smart, pictured in October in LA, warned journalists not to report ‘anything to get readers and viewers’
Happy couple: The duo, pictured in LA in September, married in 2011
Smart wasn’t completely opposed to aspects of the ongoing #MeToo movement as she said that ‘it’s so wonderful and needed to have women coming forward to break their silence,’ and that ‘a lot of the stories are horrific and need to be brought to light.’
She said that women need to realize how empowered they are, and ‘learn ways to take care of ourselves so we don’t find ourselves saying yes when we really need to say no.’
Kaminsky, who worked as a makeup artist on Oosterhouse’s show, Carter Can, said she believed her employment would be in jeopardy if she did not acquiesce to his sexual requests.
Kaminsky, who identifies as lesbian, told The Hollywood Reporter she eventually caved into his requests after his incessant propositioning, adding, ‘At that point I was a nervous wreck.
‘I was so worn down from his advances, so I did: that day, on that occasion. It was the first time. Then thereafter it was most every time we would shoot -10 to 15 times he put me in this position.’
Warm words: Smart called her husband ‘the most kindest, loving, non-aggressive [man she’s had] the privilege of knowing.’ The tandem was snapped in LA in September
Oosterhouse said that the relationship was consensual.
He told THR in a statement ‘I had an intimate relationship with Kailey 9 years ago and it was 100% mutual and consensual. In no way did I ever feel, nor was it ever indicated to me, that Kailey was uncomfortable during our intimate relationship. I would have never done anything that I was not sure was mutually agreeable.
‘The reality is that I knew it was consensual because she initiated it the first time and many of the 15 or so times we had relations thereafter. We were together outside of work and I considered her a friend.’
He continued: ‘And as for the fact that she identifies as a lesbian – I didn’t know that -all I knew was that she was in a sexual relationship with another guy who worked on the show.
‘It’s upsetting that she now feels this way, I only wish her the best and truly hope that she can move forward,’ Oosterhouse’s statement concluded.
Retort: Amy said of her husband’s accuser, ‘When you are in a CONSENSUAL RELATIONSHIP, then you need to take responsibility for engaging in that and not play victim.’ The two were snapped last year in Idaho
Kaminsky described the first alleged incident where she gave in, and says after that it became a regular request by Oosterhouse.
They were in Los Angeles in a vehicle together, en route to a project site.
She said, ‘He pulled off the road and said, ”Do you enjoy your job?” I said I did and in fact would like to work more, handling more of his personal appearances outside the show. He said, ”Well, I can help you with that. But you need to do something for me.”’
That is when the make-up artist said she believed her job was on the line.
She said after that, the asks would often take the form of non-verbal cues while they were alone on the job.
‘It was eye contact; he would look at me and look down,’ she said, adding the alleged exchange was not reciprocal and the interactions became increasingly degrading as they continued.
Kaminsky claims ‘when he would assault me, he insisted on finishing on my face – every time – knowing that I had to go back out and work. I asked him about that. He said, ‘It’s just what I wanted to do.”
Oosterhouse told the publication he had never been intimate with any crew or executives in his professional career, aside from Kaminsky.
She adds that after the alleged incidents she went into a depression for which she was hospitalized for. Kaminsky says she’s no longer a professional makeup artist.
She adds: ‘He took away the joy that I got from doing makeup,’ she says. ‘I just had no confidence.’