Are YOU lonely? Psychologist reveals 12 subtle signs – and the reason other people might not notice
A psychologist has revealed 12 subtle signs you may be suffering from loneliness – from feeling restless to losing your sense of purpose.
Birmingham-based chartered psychologist Dr Lalitaa Suglani, who offers courses on topics including managing anxiety, overcoming fear, imposter syndrome, took to Instagram to share information on the topic in a recent post.
The signs include disconnecting from loved ones and feeling constantly exhausted.
Accompanying the list of 12 signs was an extensive caption in which Dr Lalitaa discussed loneliness.
She pointed out that ‘we are all on our own journey’, and as a result, we all have ‘our own experiences of what makes us feel lonely’.
Loneliness was described as ‘the state of being alone and feeling sad about it’ by clinical psychologist Dr Suglani (stock image)
The American Psychological Association defines loneliness as ‘affective and cognitive discomfort or uneasiness from being or perceiving oneself to be alone or otherwise solitary’.
Dr Lalitaa described loneliness in the post’s caption as being ‘the state of being alone and feeling sad about it’.
Dr Lalitaa’s 12 subtle signs you are lonely
1. Disconnecting from loved ones.
2. You constantly feel tired/exhausted.
3. You feel a loss of ‘purpose’.
4. You find yourself taking really long and hot showers.
5. You can’t stop binge-watching shows.
6. You lack motivation/are unproductive.
7. Spending lots of time on social media.
8. Feeling like ‘everything’ is an effort.
9. You have feelings of restlessness.
10. You have a negative self-image and find yourself frequently self-doubting.
11. You can appear withdrawn or moody.
12. You can have a disruption in your sleep patterns or eating habits.
She added: ‘You can be alone — and enjoy every minute of it.
‘But from time to time, most of us experience loneliness.’
She then shared 12 subtle signs that you may be suffering from loneliness in the Instagram post.
The first sign she listed was disconnecting from loved ones, followed by constantly feeling tired/exhausted.
Another sign on the list was feeling a loss of purpose.
This was followed by taking really long and hot showers, and an inability to stop binge-watching shows.
Being lonely can affect your motivation, according to the psychologist, who listed lacking motivation or being unproductive as another subtle sign you may be lonely.
Spending lots of time on social media was another point on Dr Lalitaa’s list of 12 subtle signs of loneliness.
She also listed feeling like ‘everything’ is an effort, and experiencing feelings of restlessness.
Other signs that made the list included having a negative self-image, and finding yourself frequently self-doubting.
Those who are suffering from loneliness may appear withdrawn or moody, according to the psychologist.
And finally, she said, being lonely can cause a disruption in your sleep patterns or eating habits.
Dr Lalitaa also noted: ‘Loneliness isn’t always obvious in another person so let’s choose to be kind as we don’t know what anyone is going through.’
The post seemed to strike a chord with a number of readers, who took to the comments section to open up about their own experiences with loneliness.
A number of people who saw the post took to the comments section to discuss their own experiences with loneliness
One wrote: ‘All of it. Grew up as the only child with abusive parents, I was always feeling lonely without realising it. I didn’t know what lonely is because that’s what I felt every day, it felt normal.’
And another suggested they feel the same, adding: ‘Every single one resonates with me.’
As did a further poster, who said: ‘Well, I feel seen.’
Another pointed out how useful the post may be for many people, writing: ‘We often ignore these pointers & think it’s not a big deal.’
Taking to the comments section, another poster simply wrote: ‘Yep. That’s me.’
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