Bride to be slammed after refusing to let her 21-year-old niece try on her engagement ring

A bride to be has been accused of trying to drive a wedge between her groom and his family after refusing to let his 21-year-old niece try on her engagement ring.

The 36-year-old woman revealed she has been making a huge effort to get to know her partner’s family better because they are all really close.

She explained the couple started their life together as a long-distance couple so she hasn’t known the family for long. 

A bride to be has been accused of trying to drive a wedge between her groom and his family after refusing to let his 21-year-old niece try on her engagement ring

But despite her efforts the younger woman continues to joke about her ‘haggard’ appearance and make jokes about how incompatible the pair are.

‘When we announced my engagement she told my fiancé he is moving too fast even though we have been together for almost three years,’ she complained.

The bride said she has been trying to smile through the younger woman’s cruel taunts but her recent ‘tantrum’ over not being able to try on the ring has taken things next level.

‘His niece saw my ring and commented on it saying ‘I bet this is the fanciest one you’ve ever got! just like my uncle!’,’ the woman wrote on Reddit.

‘I felt offended and thought that was rude but I ignored her because of how MIL was looking at me,’ she added.

Then the younger woman asked to try it on and she politely refused.

‘She asked again but I still said no. next thing I knew she got up from her seat and stood in front of me extending her arm expecting me to take the ring off and give it to her,’ she said.

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When the bride held her ground and told her niece-to-be letting other people try the ring on made her uncomfortable her sister-in-law stepped in.

‘She was like ‘are you serious??, that’s his niece, just let her try it on!’. I said I’m sorry but no,’ she explained.

‘ His niece threw a fit and went upstairs, her mum said I had no reason to act like this.’

The bride excused herself despite her mother in law begging her to stay and then found herself in further strife when she decided not to answer her sister-in-law’s call.

‘She sent a text saying my behavior was alarming and that she will bring this incident up to her brother when he gets back because she sensed that I’m trying to drive a wedge between her daughter and my fiancé,’ she said.

The woman said she doesn’t think she acted poorly in the situation but noone has spoken to her since.

But the people of Reddit were firmly on her side – agreeing she was not the problem in this situation.

‘If anyone asks id just say ‘the ring means a lot to me. I just don’t ever wanna take it off.’ If people don’t leave you alone after that then it’s their problem.’

Others said the woman should have told the family it is bad luck to swap rings but many agreed that wouldn’t work. 

‘There is nothing, short of inventing some sort of contagious skin condition, that would have gotten them to back off, because they feel entirely entitled to anything they want relating to OP’s fiancé, and by extension to anything they want from OP,’ another person said

‘Could rephrase it as ‘wearing someone else’s engagement ring means you won’t ever get your own.’, one woman said.

The bride said she was shocked when the 21-year-old had a full tantrum over not being able to try the ring on

The bride said she was shocked when the 21-year-old had a full tantrum over not being able to try the ring on

Many pointed out the nieces obsession with the relationship is concerning.

‘Niece is acting like she’s in love with your husband wtf. She’s jealous of his attention towards you. I’d stay away from her and her mum for a while,’ one woman advised.

‘She’s acting like a child and she’s 21, and her mom isn’t helping her out at all by not setting normal boundaries. If they don’t get proactive with the niece. OP will need to watch her back forever,’ another warned.

‘No is a complete sentence. One that apparently the brat needs to hear more often,’ added a third.

The woman went on to explain her future husband refused to take sides.

‘He tells me to have patience and grace because he’s family is just starting to get to know me. He asked that I give his niece time particularly but he ignores just how obviously bad her attitude is,’ she complained.

 But this raised more red flags for some.

 ‘You’ve been together for three years, OP. If he refuses to see how disrespectful their behavior toward you is, then reconsider the relationship. You can set all the boundaries you want, but if he doesn’t reinforce them, then it’s all in vain,’ one said.

‘Oh dear heart….no. You have ‘patience and grace’ when you adopt an abused dog from the shelter and you’re training them not to be aggressive with you. And even that doesn’t usually take three years. These are adult human beings,’ another woman said.      

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