A woman who found out her fiancé was a chronic cheater and had another girlfriend three months before their wedding has revealed the ‘red flags’ that she chose to ignore to help others break free from toxic relationships.
Devin Allen, 31, from Pennsylvania, co-founded the company d.i.y.BreakUp with her friend Jessica Heilweil to offer support to those who have had to call off their engagements or weddings after leaving her own cheating ex.
The former bride has candidly opened up about her story in a series of videos on her company’s TikTok while sharing some examples of her manipulative ex’s despicable behavior.
Say what? Devin Allen, 31, from Pennsylvania, learned her fiancé was a cheater after his text messages accidentally synced to her laptop 90 days before their wedding
Opening up: Devin has chronicled their split in a series of candid TikTok videos
‘I was with my ex-fiancé for about six years, and 90 days before we were supposed to get married, I found out that he was cheating on me for the past six months,’ Devin explains in one clip.
‘His text messages accidentally were syncing to my laptop, and I found out on his bachelor party he was texting me and his girlfriend the same exact things,’ she continues. ‘He was literally copying and pasting us the same exact text messages.’
After she found out, she broke up with him and called off their wedding. Instead of walking down the aisle, she went to a Beyoncé concert and then hopped on a plane to go to Las Vegas with her friends.
Devin moved into a new apartment, traveled, and at the end of 2019, she launched her company with her friend.
‘Life is so much better now,’ she says, noting her ex and his girlfriend are still together. ‘I hope they’re happy.’
Moving on: Instead of walking down the aisle, she went to a Beyoncé concert
Over it: Devin partied in Las Vegas with her friends, traveled, and met new people to get over the breakup
One of her most popular videos about doubting her engagement and finding out her ex was cheating before their wedding has been viewed more than 4.1 million times.
In addition to chronicling her breakup, she also details specific moments in their relationship where she basically caught him being unfaithful, but he managed to talk his way out of it.
‘I just want to start off by saying that my ex-fiancé was a true piece of work. There were so many things that went wrong in our relationship, so many red flags that I chose to ignore,’ she says in one video.
‘I’m hoping by sharing some of my stories of things that went on in our relationship it can show other people that there are certain things you are not supposed to tolerate [and] put up with and sometimes people really aren’t who you think they are.’
Devin goes on to recall one of her ‘favorite stories,’ explaining she and her former fiancé were lying in bed one night and watching something on his cellphone when he got a text message that ended up being a video of another woman’s breasts.
Doing good: She also co-founded the company d.i.y.BreakUp with her friend Jessica Heilweil to offer support to those who have had to call off their engagements or weddings
She asked him to go back to the message and he did. He sneakily had the number saved under one of his engaged friends’ names.
‘He said his friend was cheating with a girl they want to high school with, and he was showing off by sending these videos,’ she recalls. ‘Of course, I believed him. It required no further explanation.’
In another video, she says that she caught him rubbing another woman’s thigh at the bar when she and her girlfriends went to meet him and his friends one night. Once he realized she was there, he hightailed it to the bathroom as if everything was normal.
‘I didn’t want to bring it up to him in the moment because I didn’t want him to explode and embarrass me in front of my friends, which looking back is another huge red flag,’ she notes.
When they went home later that night and she asked him who that woman was, he flipped the script and accused her of spying on him. Instead of answering her questions, he said he couldn’t marry someone who didn’t trust him.
‘Red flags’: In addition to chronicling her breakup, she also details specific moments in their relationship where she basically caught him being unfaithful
Despicable: Devin’s manipulative ex was once sent a video of someone else’s breasts and caught rubbing another woman’s thigh but talked his way out of both situations
Even though she basically caught him in the act, she admits that she ended up apologizing to him.
One of the worst stories, however, was when her ex refused to believe she was ill — even as she was being hospitalized.
She explains in the clip that they had gotten into a huge fight, and the next morning she woke up incredibly sick. He accused her of faking it for attention and left to go play golf.
Devin actually started passing out from throwing up so much and called her ex to take her to the hospital. He still didn’t believe her, but after fighting about it, he eventually complied.
However, he stopped to get food on the way and left her in the car for 45 minutes. When he finally retuned, he started eating the food in front of her.
Going viral: One of her most popular videos about doubting her engagement and finding out her ex was cheating before their wedding has been viewed more than 4.1 million times
Unforgettable moment: In the clip, she reenacts how she found out her ex was cheating on her
‘I’m projectile vomiting out the window because of the smell,’ she recalls. ‘It doesn’t phase him at all.’
When they finally got to the emergency room, Devin was seen right away because she was so ill, but her ex still insisted that she was faking it. She needed three IVs, and then her doctor had to get another doctor because she was sick with the flu and a kidney infection.
‘While we were waiting, he starts messing with all the different kits they had laid out for anyone coming into the emergency room later that night,’ she says of her ex. ‘Then when the doctor came in and questioned what was going on, again he said I was faking and blamed the entire thing on me.’
In the video’s caption, she revealed the place where he stopped for food on the way to the ER was actually where ‘his side chick worked.’
‘That’s not a Red Flag lol. That is God and the entire universe yelling RUN!!!!!!!’ one person commented.
‘Wow, this really hurt to hear. So sorry you went thru that, and GOOD RIDDANCE to that psycho! Glad you’re well and thriving now!’ another added.