An Australian confidence coach has shared her secrets for being the most ‘magnetic’ and ‘electric’ person in a room full of people.
Melbourne-based Brooke Lindsay, 26, shared a video on YouTube about the importance of mindset and body language in making a great impression on people.
Speaking to FEMAIL, Brooke described confidence and charisma as a ‘muscle people can build on’ rather than a trait people are ‘born with’.
‘For a lot of people, once they change their internal dialogue and think differently about themselves that’s when they’re most confident,’ she said.
Brooke said by being brave, speaking with conviction, being interested in the conversation and improving your body language can also build charisma.
Melbourne-based Brooke Lindsay (pictured) has shared how to improve your charisma to be the most ‘magnetic’ and ‘electric’ person when walking into a room full of people
Work on your internal dialogue
When asked how people can start building their confidence, Brooke said the first step is to work on your internal dialogue and challenge the ‘inner mean girl’ in your head.
‘What you tell yourself reflects and impacts how confident you are around others, but if you work on these self beliefs you can definitely become more confident and charismatic,’ she said.
Brooke said negative internal thoughts, or the ‘inner mean girl’, are often impacted by external factors, such as experiences, friends, family, work or the media.
‘A lot of women in particular have this inner mean girl that tells them all these negative things like “you can’t do it”, “you’re not good enough” or “that person’s better than you”, and so it’s important to recognise these thoughts and start to question them,’ she said.
By shifting these bad habits and replacing them with positive values, you can create a necessary change in order to build confidence and charisma.
When asked how people can start building their confidence, Brooke said the first step is to work on your internal dialogue everyday and challenge the ‘inner mean girl’ in your head
Brooke said negative internal thoughts, or the ‘inner mean girl’, are often impacted by external factors, such as experiences, friends, family, work or the media
Improve your body language
After gradually working on your mindset, Brooke said the next step is to consider your body language and how you present yourself to others.
‘Consider eye contact, how you use your hands when you speak, if your arms are crossed, facial expressions and how you hold yourself,’ she said.
Brooke said when in a social situation, remind yourself that you are worthy and deserve to be there.
‘Stand up tall, remind yourself that you have important things to say,’ she said.
HOW TO BUILD YOUR CONFIDENCE AND CHARISMA
Work on your inner dialogue by changing the way you think about yourself and know your purpose
Challenge the ‘inner mean girl’ and any negative thoughts
Improve your body language and notice how you hold yourself
Be brave, opinionated and speak with conviction by being interested in the conversation or what others have to say
Make others feel good by maintaining eye contact, not looking at your phone when they’re speaking and asking them questions
Be brave and speak with conviction
Brooke said becoming more ‘magnetic’ taps into being brave by sharing your opinion and putting yourself out there – which is often challenging for many.
She said it can be terrifying and overwhelming for some people to built upon this as many are usually concerned of what others may think.
‘Speaking with conviction comes from knowing you’re worthy and understanding that what you have to say to add to the conversation matters,’ she said.
‘Take small steps and discover what works for you – it could be as little as cracking a joke or agreeing with someone then building on the topic.’
Brooke said becoming more ‘magnetic’ taps into being brave by sharing your opinion and putting yourself out there – which is often challenging for many
Make others feel good
Once all these layers of self worth and poise have been built, Brooke recommends making others feel good as people will remember the feeling.
‘This goes for all relationships in your life – put the effort into listening and responding to people thoughtfully,’ she said.
‘While studying neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) I’ve learnt that the meaning of the communication is not just what you intend but the response that you get; how you make others feel will always be something people remember you for.’
This can be accomplished by responding well after someone has spoken and asking questions.
Brooke also offers her advice to others through a free podcast titled The Modelling Confidence Podcast which can be listened to on her website or on Spotify.