Constance Hall has claimed her husband Denim Cooke missed the birth of their first child together after he was kicked out of the delivery room.
The controversial Australian mummy blogger penned an emotional post on Facebook recalling how hospital staff told Denim to leave while she was in labour because his presence was ‘disruptive’.
Denim was told to come back at 7am, but he decided to stay up all night and was waiting outside her room until after she gave birth to Raja in May last year.
Constance, who co-parents a blended family of seven with Denim in Perth, said his prompt return made her realise what ‘true connection felt like’ and is something she will ‘never forget’.
‘Denim was kicked out of the hospital the night I had our son, they said men can’t stay, it’s disruptive,’ Constance started the post.
Constance Hall has claimed her husband Denim Cooke missed the birth of their baby son Raja after he was kicked out of the delivery room (pictured together)
The Australian mummy blogger penned an emotional post on Facebook recalling how hospital staff told Denim to leave while she was in labour because his presence was ‘disruptive’
The best-selling author revealed she was ‘alone, in pain and on strong pain relief’ as midwives tended to her throughout the night.
She also suffered a ‘huge panic attack’ during delivery which caused her to believe her baby had fallen from the bed.
Hospital staff told Denim he could return at 7am, but by 6.59am he was already on the phone telling Constance he was in the elevator.
‘When he walked through the door I said, ”Isn’t he beautiful” and Denim replied, ”Why do you think I’m here, I watched my clock all night”,’ she said.
The best-selling author was on strong pain relief and suffered a panic attack during delivery
While Constance expressed gratitude for how Denim had loved and cared for her throughout her pregnancy, it was his treatment of their newborn son that really won her heart.
‘I watched this man, these eyes, that had gazed upon my body for many hours, watching it change, grow, I watched the lines around his eyes deepen as he smiled at the belly that housed his son.
‘I watched those eyes turn their attention to our baby, I watched that man smell our sons tiny body who hours before was still a part of mine, and I learnt what true connection felt like.’
Constance noted how Denim could have easily come to the hospital later that morning, but prioritised their family instead.
Constance was touched by Denim’s prompt return to the hospital which meant the world to her
‘He could have slept in, he should have gone to get a coffee, he would have at least had some toast or made some calls.. If he was anyone else.
‘But they kicked my husband out of the hospital the night I had our son, they said man can’t stay, it’s disruptive, and he came back, straight back to me.
‘He will never understand what that tiny gesture meant to me and that’s OK, because I will never forget it.’
The impassioned post quickly racked up 24,000 likes and hundreds of comments in a matter of hours, with many women sharing similar experiences from the delivery room.
‘This is one of the reasons I left hospital after five hours. We wanted to be together as a family the first night,not apart,’ a fellow mother said.
‘This happened with my three hospital births. Another reason I had my fourth at home with some amazing midwives supporting us,’ another wrote.
Some who had more positive experiences voiced support for Constance.
‘I’m sorry that that is your hospitals policy. My husband had a bed next to mine and was able to stay with me in the hospital. It was such a great time for family bonding and a huge help and comfort to me,’ one mum wrote.
‘My husband has stayed with me for all four of our kids. At the Darwin private hospital we had a private room and he got to sleep there with me and each of our babies. It was great. Would have been so hard if he had to leave. I feel for you ladies!’ another said.