Mummy blogger Constance Hall has hosted a live therapy session with her husband Denim Cooke on Facebook, with the pair openly talking about their biggest fights.
The Australian mother-of-seven, who has been working with archetypal therapist Katie Todd over the last few weeks, decided to broadcast her counselling meeting with some of her 1.3 million followers on Wednesday.
‘Every now and then I like to do a live publicly so you can see what we do in the village [Constance’s sponsored Facebook page]. It’s a little daunting as the village has no haters, only love, and this is the wide web so getting vulnerable is never easy,’ Constance said.
Mummy blogger Constance Hall has hosted a live therapy session with her husband Denim Cooke on Facebook, with the pair openly talking about their biggest fights
This volatile behaviour will eventually ‘promise that your marriage will end,’ Katie said
They spoke about how men in general fail to embrace their vulnerable sides which only aggravates their partners and causes arguments.
On many occasions like this, Constance said she threatens Denim with divorce.
‘I’m yelling at him and saying we have to get divorced and you’ll have to move out,’ she told Katie.
This volatile behaviour will eventually ‘promise that your marriage will end,’ Katie said.
‘I’m yelling at him and saying we have to get divorced and you’ll have to move out,’ she told Katie
Denim defended himself by saying his father never taught him to be vulnerable and show a softer side, and this learned behaviour can sometimes cause problems in his relationship.
‘Our parents era had to work through two world wars and a depression… a lot of them are damaged and broken,’ Katie said.
Constance said one of the main fights she has with her husband of two years is over asking him to do something, only to have him snap back in response.
Katie agreed that the couple have had ‘meltdowns’ but always manage to come back together, as they learn to respect each other’s boundaries
‘That’s when I’m planning our divorce and separating our things in my head,’ she said.
Katie agreed that the couple have had ‘meltdowns’ but always manage to come back together, as they learn to respect each other’s boundaries.
Previously, Constance hinted that her marriage was in trouble with mention that she will ‘mother alone’ in an Instagram caption about giving up breastfeeding.
‘The very last baby I’ll ever breastfeed. There isn’t even any milk left in my boobs, he just sucks for comfort,’ she said.
Mother-of-seven Constance Hall hinted at a split from her husband of one year, Denim Cooke, after the pair sought relationship therapy and she labelled him a ‘caveman’
‘It reminds me that I can do anything on my own. I was born alone, one day I will die alone.
‘In between that I will mother alone. someone may or may not stand next to me, but I mother alone.
‘No love will ever come close to making you feel as strong as independence does. You need nobody. Just yourself. Expect nothing of people. Be strong for your baby.’
The pair share baby Raja; Constance had Billie-Violet, Arlo Love, Rumi and Snow with her former husband Bill and Raja has two sons, Zeyke and Sunny, from a previous marriage.
The 35-year-old Australian blogger referred to herself as ‘dying alone’ in a recent Instagram caption about giving up breastfeeding, suggesting the couple were at odds with each other (Raja pictured)
They decided to tie the knot in January 2018 after meeting at a local skatepark
They decided to tie the knot in January 2018 after meeting at a local skate park.
In May Constance decided to live stream their first therapy session, hoping they could sort through ‘the problems in our marriage’.
She broke the news with a post complaining about Denim ‘going off into his man cave’ when they have an argument.
‘When Denim and I argue or anything happens that he is uncomfortable with he goes into his man cave. And nothing I can do will draw him out of it. Shut down, lights off,’ Constance said.
‘Even if I confront him over something that’s really upsetting me, he shuts down.’
The pair share baby Raja (pictured); Constance had Billie-Violet, Arlo Love, Rumi and Snow with her former husband Bill and Raja has two sons, Zeyke and Sunny, from a previous marriage
So in a bid to face their issues head they agreed to speak with Katie Eden Todd, although Denim was originally ‘kicking and screaming’ his way there.
‘Denzy has agreed that our first relationship therapy session should be live on Facebook. He believes in our village and also believes that delving into the problems in our marriage could potentially help others in their marriage,’ Constance said.
Hinting that ‘s*** was about to get personal’ the news came just one day after the couple celebrated their son Raja’s first birthday.
In her usual way Constance curated a post on social media in honour of her youngest child.
Last month she voiced how tiring being a mother-of-seven can be and that she had reached her breaking point
‘Raja turned one today. I had no idea what to expect when I found out I was pregnant again. I’m an experienced enough mother to be scared of the year ahead,’ she said
‘Raja turned one today. I had no idea what to expect when I found out I was pregnant again. I’m an experienced enough mother to be scared of the year ahead,’ she said.
‘Another baby, a new man, another little creature, another little teacher, to blur all of my days into one.’
She said the last year had been exhausting and tested her relationship with her husband.
‘You will resent him for sleeping so much, you’ll reject his offers for sex, he’ll resent your rejection so much he’ll shut down emotionally, leaving you feeling lonely and unloved and him feeling lonely and unloved,’ she said.
Constance also remarked that on a basic level she couldn’t trust Denim to do the weekly shop properly.
And last month she voiced how tiring being a mother-of-seven can be and that she had reached her breaking point
‘You would think I would send my husband to Woolworths for me but he turns into a caveman when he steps foot in there and returns from the weekly shop with “meat and bread”. What kind of meat? “Meat”,’ she told her 1.3 million followers.
And last month she voiced how tiring being a mother-of-seven can be and that she had reached her breaking point.
So, after crying and leaving the morning school run to Denim, she bemoaned how he would probably ‘do it wrong’.
‘Yes Denim has probably put the wrong sandwiches in the wrong school bags and everyone will probably be late for school and feeling a bit weird that I’m not the one doing it,’ she said at the time.