A man who is in his first polyamorous relationship has opened up about what it’s like to be quarantined with his girlfriend and her other boyfriend — a man he isn’t even close to.
Billy Procida, 30, host of The Manwhore Podcast, has been riding out the coronavirus pandemic with his girlfriend Megan and her live-in boyfriend of two and a half years, Kyle (a pseudonym), at her home in Jersey City, New Jersey.
‘I still get a little cautious about how handsy to be with Megan in front of Kyle, how kissy to be in front of him. I’m trying to figure out when he would want to have a conversation and when he doesn’t,’ the New York-based comedian told The Cut.
Polyamorous: Billy Procida (right), host of The Manwhore Podcast, has been staying with his girlfriend Megan (left) and her live-in boyfriend Kyle (a pseudonym) at her home in New Jersey
Billy, who has been with Megan for nine months, only planned on staying with his girlfriend and metamour for a few days, but he is worried that if he returns to his Brooklyn apartment, he will be stuck there in the event of a shutdown.
He is currently sleeping in the guest room, and Megan has slept with him for the past couple of nights. He said she fell asleep with him the other night, but he woke up alone. He assumed that she went to Kyle’s room to sleep with him.
Billy tweeted about his somewhat awkward living situation on Monday, explaining: ‘I’m currently hunkering down at my poly girlfriend’s home where she lives with her other boyfriend. He and I aren’t best buds & are very different.’
He added that Megan is also dogsitting two dogs, noting that one is a ‘nice dog’ and the other ‘is a butthole.’
Three’s company: Billy tweeted about his somewhat awkward living situation on Monday. He later clarified that he and Kyle don’t fight; they’re just not close
Intimate: For the first few days of his stay, Megan slept in the guest room with him, and he said he gave her some ‘birthday lovin” earlier this week
Pose: Billy and Megan, a fat activist, have both posted photos of themselves in her Jersey City home this week
While speaking to The Cut, he clarified what he meant when he said that he and Kyle are not ‘best buds.’
‘When I said that I didn’t mean that we fight. It just means that we are not close,’ he explained. ‘This is probably the most he and I will have exchanged words.’
Billy said that he is getting to interact with Megan’s boyfriend more, but he is also cautious to be as ‘polite as possible’ and respectful of Kyle, who is more ‘somber’ and ‘quiet’ than he is.
He explained that Megan and Kyle have ‘been going through some relationship difficulties themselves’ and he doesn’t want to make it worse, though he and his girlfriend are still intimate.
Making it work: Billy has been with Megan for nine months and it’s his first polyamorous relationship. Megan, meanwhile, has been with Kyle for two and a half years
Candid: Billy admitted that he is happy to have Kyle around during such a stressful time because he doesn’t have to ‘be everything’ to Megan
The comedian noted that he gave Megan ‘some birthday sexual lovin” when she celebrated her birthday earlier this week. While they weren’t able to do much, she said it was a ‘good birthday’ because she was with the two men she loves.
Billy admitted that he is happy to have Kyle around during such a stressful time because he doesn’t have to ‘be everything’ to Megan.
‘I don’t have to give her all the attention that’s needed, I don’t have to give her all of the cuddles that are needed, because she has another partner,’ he explained.
‘In general, that’s the really cool thing about polyamory: I don’t feel the pressure of being everything for someone.’