Dating coach names the one huge mistake single women make with guys: ‘This is a red flag’
- Louanne Ward said you shouldn’t want a man to just listen to problems, but fix
- She said it’s a ‘massive red flag’ if a man doesn’t offer to help with your problems
- She previously shared the ‘beige flags’ including playing it safe personality wise
A dating coach has revealed the one mistake single women make is ditching a man because he wants to help fix their problems rather than just listen to them.
Relationship expert Louanne Ward, from Perth, said she thinks it’s a ‘massive red flag’ if a man doesn’t offer to help his girlfriend, wife or the woman he’s dating with their problems.
She said in an Instagram video: ‘If he’s not offering to help for the small things, he’s definitely not going to do that for the big things’.
‘If he’s not offering to help, that’s more of a red flag than the guy who says I’ve got you here, I’ve got your back.’
A dating coach has revealed the one mistake single women make is ditching a man because he wants to help fix their problems rather than just listen to them (Louanne Ward pictured)
Louanne said she finds it ‘confusing’ that so many women think they want a man to just ‘listen’ rather than ‘help’ with the problems in their lives.
‘I have a lot of ladies that I speak to who say to me “when I tell a man about my problems, I don’t expect for him to fix them, I just want him to listen to them”,’ she said.
‘I’m going to challenge this a bit and ask where does this attitude come from?’
Louanne (pictured0 said she thinks it’s a ‘massive red flag’ if a man doesn’t offer to help his girlfriend, wife or the woman he’s dating with their problems
Louanne said when you speak to a man and you tell him about a problem you’re having, you should never see it ‘as a negative’ if he offers to help.
‘Men are actually wired to want to fix the problem,’ she said.
‘If you rang him and said “my car has broken down and it’s dark and it’s raining”, would you really want him to say “I’m sure you’ll figure it out, you’re a resourceful girl”.
‘Or if you lost your purse and he didn’t offer to lend you some money, what sort of man is this?’
She said women need to let any man in their lives help them with the small things, so that they know they will also assist when it comes to the big things.
She said women need to let any man in their lives help them with the small things, so that they know they will also assist when it comes to the big things
Hundreds of people who saw Louanne’s video were quick to praise her words, and said that it was ‘good advice’.
‘Very true, I think it comes down to clearly communicating when you just want to vent,’ one woman said.
‘Thanks for sharing,’ another added.
Previously, Louanne shared the ‘beige flags’ which she dubbed a ‘boring’ personality trait.
‘If you’re beige you’ve been labelled unexciting, boring, generic and uninspiring, which in effect is a red flag for modern daters,’ Louanne said.
For instance, someone who is ‘beige’ often lacks communication skills, plays it safe and people pleases often usually makes it difficult to connect with someone.
‘Examples of being a ‘beige flag’ include obsessing over pineapple on pizza (because you think it makes you edgy), references to mainstream opinions where you sit on the fence, playing it safe by people pleasing and basically having no interesting personality traits (according to others),’ Louanne wrote.
This ‘unoriginal content’ is a mix of being ‘bland’ and giving your date ‘the ick’.
‘Beige flags are the combination of dating fatigue, unfulfilled expectations and yes I hate to say it but judgment,’ Louanne continued.
‘People are fed up with ‘Dating to date’ and no longer want to waste an evening sitting opposite someone they aren’t compatible with. Meaning people’s standards are going up.’
Three ways to upgrade your dating profile
1. Use photos that represent who you truly are not who you are trying to be.
2. Embrace your personality if you attempt to play it safe, people will be unsure about how original and fun you will be in real life.
3. Make your profile a unique story, not a shopping list – nobody really cares that you love cats, red wine, and walks on the beach.
4. Write a profile that is honest, from the heart and shows your personality.
Source: Louanne Ward
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