Dating coach: This is the one problem with almost all relationships – and how to get over it
- Relationship expert Louanne Ward reveals one major problem with relationships
- Ms Ward said people need to learn to deal with disappointment properly
- She said expecting someone to meet your expectations all the time is fantasy
Relationship expert Louanne Ward told her followers it is unrealistic to expect your partner will never let you down
A dating coach has called out men and women who can’t ‘deal with any kind of disappointment in a relationship’ claiming they live in a fantasy land.
Relationship expert Louanne Ward told her followers it is unrealistic to expect your partner will never let you down.
‘If you are in a relationship and you trust the other person is never going to let you down, that they are never going to disappoint you… that is a fantasy,’ she said.
‘The problem in the relationship isn’t about the disappointment, it is about the way you communicate the disappointment,’ she said.
And when they do instead of reacting critically immediately you should instead take a moment to work out if it was a deliberate act or honest mistake.
‘Was it a case of they actually did something wrong or a case of them not meeting your expectations somehow?
‘Before you crucify them, criticise them or complain you should ask yourself if they did something wrong,’ she said.
She finished the sobering video by reminding her followers that nobody will be able to fulfil every expectation, all of the time.
Louanne recently revealed how to tell if a man is interested in a serious relationship or is just messing around.
She said instead of asking them what they are looking for you should rephrase it: ‘If you were me, what would you do if you were looking for something serious?’
‘Of course, men can tell you exactly what you want to hear, so if you ask them flat out what are they looking for, they are generally gonna tell you what you want to hear.’
If you want an honest answer, the dating expert said you should ask ‘if you were me, what would you do if you were looking for something serious?’
‘Before you crucify them, criticise them or complain you should ask yourself if they did something wrong,’ she said
‘Depending on the answer that the guy gives you, you will have all the answers you need to know,’ Louanne said.
For instance, if he says ‘if you’re looking for something serious, I think we should explore the next level of our relationship because I’m also looking for something serious’, you will know he is on the same page as you.
Meanwhile, if she says ‘I think you should keep looking around because I am not looking for something serious’, you’ll know he just sees your relationship as fun.