Dating coach reveals the six things she’d NEVER put in an online dating profile 

A relationship expert who charges $20,000 to perfect dating profiles has revealed the six things that you should never include on yours.

After meeting the ‘love of her life’ on the dating app Bumble in her 40s, Amy Nobile, now 52, from New York, launched her own business, called Love, Amy, in an attempt to help others find their soulmates through online dating.

She holds one-on-one sessions with single people – during which, she teaches them how to get the most out of dating apps, helps them whip their profiles into tip-top shape, and gives them lessons on them what to say while messaging potential partners, among others things.

From ‘distracting’ images to ‘negative’ prompt responses, here are the six things Amy said you should always avoid on your dating profile 

And while she normally charges thousands of dollars for her expertise – four months of her coaching comes out to $20,000 – she has now shared some important tips on how you can craft the ideal dating profile for free while chatting with Insider recently.

According to the love coach, you should never use old photos – especially if you’ve changed your look recently – and you don’t want to pick selfies or mirror pictures -because they may come off as immature.

She also warned against snaps that hide your appearance with things like hats or sunglasses, and big group shots of you and your friends.

From ‘distracting’ images to ‘negative’ prompt responses, here are the six things Amy said you should always avoid on your dating profile.

Don’t use old photos – especially if you’ve changed your look recently

According to Amy, you should never use pictures that are more than four years old on your dating profile because it’s important to give potential suitors a realistic idea of who you are

According to Amy, you should never use pictures that are more than four years old on your dating profile.

She told Insider that it’s important to give your potential suitors a realistic idea of who you are to ‘prevent mismatches.’ 

The dating coach also suggested that those who recently went through a major physical change only use photos that show off their new look. 

However, on the other hand, she encouraged people who like to switch up their appearance a lot to display their versatility online.

‘If you’re changing your hair color from blue to red to pink to brown, or you’ll shave half your head and then grow it out, then just go for it,’ she said. ‘It doesn’t really matter because that’s part of who you are. 

‘But if you’ve worn your hair down to your waist your whole life, and then literally last week you chopped it all off, you’re going to have to take all new pictures.’ 

Don’t use pictures that hide your appearance with sunglasses or hats

Amy’s second tip is to avoid using photos that may hide your appearance – like ones of you wearing sunglasses or hats

Amy’s second tip is to avoid using photos that may hide your appearance – like ones of you wearing sunglasses or hats.

She said it’s important to use a ‘clear image,’ and while it may feel ‘more vulnerable,’ it will help you find someone that you’re going to really ‘click with.’

The relationship expert noted that eye-contact with the camera is especially important, telling Insider: ‘[People] want to able to see the sparkle in your eye.’

Don’t use massive group shots or you might confuse your potential suitors

Amy said you never want to make a potential love interest do ‘work’ when looking at your profile, so she suggested avoiding group shots. She is seen with her partner

While it’s nice to show off your social side, Amy pointed out that pictures that show you alongside your friends or family members could ‘confuse’ your suitors and turn them off

Amy said you never want to make a potential love interest do ‘work’ when looking at your profile, so she suggested avoiding massive group shots.

While it’s nice to show off your social side, Amy pointed out that pictures that show you alongside your friends or family members could ‘confuse’ your suitors and ultimately turn them off.

You want to be front and center on your profile, and if your match can’t pick you out of group shot, it’s a ‘waste’ – so according to the dating coach, you should stick to pictures with two people or less.

Don’t use selfies or mirror pictures because they come off as immature

Amy warned that selfies or mirror pictures could come off as ‘immature.’ In addition, she said they can also give off a ‘distorted’ view of you, so it’s best to stick to pictures taken by others

The coach also pointed out that selfies are much less interesting than photos of you doing the things you love or are passionate about 

Amy warned that selfies or mirror pictures could come off as ‘immature.’ In addition, she said they can also give off a ‘distorted’ view of you, so it’s best to stick to pictures taken by others.  

The coach also pointed out that selfies are much less interesting than photos of you doing the things you love or are passionate about.

She suggested choosing pictures that ‘capture a moment’ for your profile.

Don’t include videos or voice recordings on your profile

According to Amy, you should avoid using voice recordings or videos on your dating profile because they are ‘more distracting than enticing’

According to Amy, you should avoid using voice recordings or videos on your dating profile because they are ‘more distracting than enticing.’

She explained that sometimes they don’t work, which will only result in people becoming frustrating and ‘giving up’ on you.

In addition, the relationship expert told Insider that people often try to use the videos to show off their humorous side, but explained it usually ‘gets lost in translation.’

‘If you’re trying to be funny it can be like, “Oh my god, that’s weird,”‘ she explained. ‘And even if you’re trying to be serious, they can land too serious and awkward.

‘[Videos are just] another thing they have to analyze and it just becomes this multimedia puzzle where people are just like, “Ugh.” They kind of give up.’

Don’t include any negativity in your bio and use prompts to really showcase who you are and what you want

While it might be tempting to include your turn offs or qualities that you dislike on your profile, Amy suggested that you focus on the things you are looking for instead

She explained that negativity can be a ‘huge turnoff’ for possible matches – so rather than posting what you don’t want, she said it’s important to share what you love

While it might be tempting to include your turn offs or qualities that you dislike on your profile, Amy suggested that you focus on the things you are looking for instead.

She explained that negativity can be a ‘huge turnoff’ for possible matches – so rather than posting what you don’t want, she said it’s important to share what you love.

She told Insider that you use the prompts to focus on three main things on your profile – one about your interests, one about what you’re looking for in a partner, and one that’s more humorous or ‘lighthearted.’ 

‘I don’t think people are utilizing the prompts to really talk about who they are and what they want enough,’ she stated.