An elegance coach who shares self-help videos for infiltrating high society and having good etiquette in posh settings, has revealed the ten principles every classy woman must follow to ‘elevate her life’.
Anna Bey, who lives in London, boasts 1.02million subscribers on YouTube, where she shows viewers how to live a ‘feminine lifestyle’ in the hopes of attracting an affluent partner.
Having married her wealthy husband during lockdown, the School of Affluence founder recently shared a video explaining the rules elegant women follow – including never being desperate for a man’s attention.
Swedish-born Anna also suggested elegant ladies avoid any drama and don’t ‘swear or use slang’.
Here, FEMAIL reveals the ten principles for any classy lady to follow, according to Anna …
Never be desperate for attention
Anna Bey (pictured), who lives in London, boasts 1.02million subscribers on YouTube , where she shows viewers how to live a ‘feminine lifestyle’ in the hopes of attracting an affluent partner
The elegance coach said: ‘Elegant women are not desperate. Not only are we not desperate for men – we do not run after men, that is the golden rule if you are an elegant woman – but we’re also not desperate for people in general, meaning acquaintances, friendships, etc.
‘We set boundaries and we understand our own value. We therefore don’t settle for less, and we know how we should be treated. We demand respect because after all, we respect others so at least people can respect us in return.’
Always be polite and respectful
‘We also show others respect,’ said Anna. ‘That’s why we work so much with manners and etiquette. The reason why it is so important is because good manners and etiquette shows class.
‘It doesn’t show your wealth at all because class does not equal levels of wealth, not all wealthy people have class, unfortunately.
‘Class is something that has to do with respect, again, how you treat others, how you treat yourself, how compassionate you are, how humble you are, etc.’
Having married her wealthy husband during lockdown, the School of Affluence founder (pictured) recently shared a video explaining the rules elegant women follow – including never being desperate for a man’s attention
Avoid any drama
The elegance coach insisted: ‘Elegant women do not do any drama. Women who are constantly in battles, in fights, having issues with people, women who seem to be fighting with someone pretty much every single day – that does not signal class.
‘That signals that you’re a drama queen, that you’re perhaps insecure and that you have all kinds of issues going on with yourself.
‘But elegant women, they don’t do drama. This doesn’t mean that you can never have any arguments or that you can never feel upset or anything like that, but elegant women pick their battles.
Never become obsessed with the finer things in life
The elegance coach said: ‘Elegance ladies enjoy the finer things in life, but they’re never obsessed, and they never really let that control their life.
‘The finer things in life for us has nothing to do with being obsessed about materialistic things. We don’t let it rule our life, we don’t ever let it define our identity, and we never, ever let it define our own personal value.’
‘Stay away from reoccurring drama and dramatic people as well,’ concluded Anna.
Don’t be jealous and malicious
‘Elegant women are not jealous,’ said Anna. ‘There are two types of jealousy, there is a very innocent, positive one.’
The coach goes on to explain that this type of jealous leads you to look at someone who is doing better than you, and feel happy for them, but also be motivated to ‘work harder and do better’.
‘Then you have the malicious jealous one,’ said Anna. ‘The one who would look at her friend with that Ferrari, and talk behind this friend’s back [about it].
‘Elegant women, they are truly happy for one another, they don’t feel ever really jealous if they feel some form of uncomfortable feelings, then they start actually questioning themselves.
‘”Why am I feeling like this, this has to do with me, this has nothing to do with that person.” Elegant women, they feel inspired by others success, because they know that, then, it’s even more possible.’
Avoid swearing or slang and communicate clearly
‘Elegant women communicate clearly,’ insisted Anna. ‘…meaning that we stop swearing, we stop using slang, we refine our vocabulary, we understand what topics are appropriate to talk about, and so on.
‘Because do you know what happens when you don’t communicate clearly with people? Drama, fights, issues, problems, etc.
‘And what happens when you start communicating clearly is that you end up making yourself heard, making others feel heard, in a non-judgemental way, listening to other people with compassion and not jumping to conclusions.’
Swedish-born Anna (pictured) also suggested elegant ladies avoid any drama and don’t ‘swear or use slang’
Never judge people
‘If we are able to celebrate our own uniqueness, then we definitely should be celebrating other people’s uniqueness and differences,’ explained the elegance coach.
‘Elegant lades never look down on people who are different. First and foremost, there is nothing that signals more class and elegance than being open minded and non-judgemental.
‘I don’t like when women use elegance to feel superior to others. I think it’s not elegant behaviour whatsoever, it signals a low class, and it’s just something that I don’t support.
‘I think it’s important that we do have people who are different to us in our own network, in our social circle.’