For years Hollywood has been feeding us the idea of a soulmate, but are they anything like what we have been told?
FEMAIL spoke to Melbourne-based relationship expert, Megan Luscombe, about whether they actually exist and how to know if you have found yours.
She explained that Hollywood has it completely wrong – there isn’t only one person out there for us, and no, your eyes won’t simply meet across the room and fall in love.
‘I absolutely believe soulmates exist, but I do believe there is more than one for each person out there,’ Megan said.
‘It’s impossible to only have one. If you only have one then our lives would be incredibly unfulfilled if you don’t meet them.’
FEMAIL spoke to Australian relationship expert, Megan Luscombe, about whether soulmates actually exist and how you know whether you have found yours
Megan said there’s enormous pressure on people to try and find ‘the one’, and then we meet them, we’re expected to know instantly that they’re the perfect match.
‘Soulmates are a bigger feature in life than this. Your first soulmate isn’t the first person you’re going to fall in love with, you could then have another in your 40s and 50s,’ She explained.
‘It doesn’t necessarily have to be a lover, we always think it’s someone that we’re going to date but it can be a teacher, a parent or even a friend.’
Megan also said that a soulmate doesn’t have to be someone who is in your life forever, but when they are in your life the impact is huge.
‘I absolutely believe soulmates exist, but I do believe there is more than one for each person out there,’ Megan said
‘Meeting your soulmate is often when you find someone you can instantly have an attraction to or a connection with,’ she revealed.
‘But you won’t straight away understand what they are and how much they mean to you until further down the track.
‘I don’t think you can instinctively know that’s your soulmate but you will feel like that person is really important to you and that they’ve changed you.’
Megan also said that a soulmate will help teach you some of your biggest life lessons.
Megan explained that a soulmate doesn’t have to be someone you’re romantically interested in as they can be a teacher, a parent or even a friend
HOW TO KNOW IF THEY’RE YOUR SOULMATE
– They make you better
– They match your values
– They push you
– They’re what you want in a life partner
– Someone you always think is perfect
– Someone who your soul connects with and speaks to
– Someone you want to spend time with
So how do you know that you have met yours?
‘A soulmate is someone you connect with in a way that is deeper than you thought possible,’ she said.
‘They match your values, they are someone your soul connects to and speaks to and it’s someone you constantly want to spend time with.
‘They bring out the best in you and they treat you with kindness and generosity. You will bring out the best in each other.’
The relationship expert explained that a soulmate is someone who is a part of your soul circle and when you meet it is when your souls are coming back together.
‘Who your soulmate is is different for everybody, but it also comes down to how open you are to accepting these kinds of relationships,’ Megan said.
‘Everyone is really conditioned into thinking that there can only be one, so they’re waiting for that moment, but it’s bigger than that. Open your heart and let them in.’