Whether people want to admit it or not, flirting is a skill that both men and women should master if they want to impress someone either on a date or at a public gathering like a club.
If you are a white girl, you’ve met the black guy of your dreams, you’ve gone on a date and the chemistry was good but you want to see him again. What are the things you should do?
This article will discuss things you should do to increase your chances of being asked out on a second date by a guy you fancy.
1. Smile a lot during the date
Men love a woman that is always smiling on a first date because it lets them know she is having a good time.
If you are not showing off your pearly whites and showing that you are genuinely happy to be around him, you will decrease your chances of being asked out on a second date because he will think you are not into him as much as he is into you.
2. Laugh with him
The goal of going on a date is to enjoy yourself and you increase your chances of a second date by having a good laugh with him. This is a very clear sign that you are having a good time with him.
There is a gray area though when it comes to laughing because doing it excessively when something isn’t funny can make you come across as trying too hard to laugh just for the sake of laughing.
This isn’t a very good look and will just make your date think you are weird. Pick the right moment to laugh and don’t be shy around him. Share a real genuine laugh with him at the right moments and everything should be ok.
3. Don’t be afraid to touch
When you feel comfortable during the date, touch him occasionally. A few light touches or a hand across the knee is absolutely fine and when you are meeting him for the first time, you can give him half a hug, this is fine too.
All these things combined with good communication throughout will secure you the second date you want.
4. Shower him with compliments and tell him you want a second date
Just like black women, black men love to be complimented on their looks too but don’t go overboard. A man will easily know if your compliments are not genuine and you are saying them just for the sake of it.
You have to mean every word you say and don’t just say things just to be nice.
The fact that you are showing your admiration for him will make being asked out on a second date so much easier and if it is something you want, communicate that to him. Imply that you are open to the idea of seeing him again and if the feeling is mutual, he will ask you out again.
They say “you miss 100% of the shots you don’t take” and the worst thing he can say to you if you want a second date is “No”. if he doesn’t feel the same way, move on, there are plenty of fish in the sea.
5. Don’t go on a first date straight after finishing work
It is not a good idea to show up to dates especially the first one in a suit or outfit you went to work in. You need to plan your first date properly and well in advance so that you look your best when you meet your black fella.
When you are not in work mode, it is much easier for you to be yourself. The outfit you wear can be the difference between how your date will see you and how comfortable you’ll be.
If you show up looking drop-dead gorgeous on the first date, chances are he will want to take you out on a second date.
6. Don’t talk about your exes
Women don’t like a man talking about their exes on a first date and men are the same too. They want to hear all about you, your hopes, dreams, aspirations, and not your exes. This shows them that you haven’t gotten over your ex and you still might have feelings for them.
Behavior like this on a first date reduces your chances of being asked out on a second date. Whatever you do, stay clear of asking topics regarding exes because there are so many things to talk about other than that.
7. Don’t be late
When you are asked on a first date, make sure you are punctual and arrive on time because this will make a good first impression. If you are running late due to one reason or the other, call your date and let them know.
This level of respect and courtesy will make your date feel valued, tell them about your character and that you care about them instead of leaving them in limbo.
When you arrive on time or show your date some respect if you are running late, will make them not think twice about asking you out on a second date if the first one goes well.