I’m a therapist, don’t ignore these 5 relationship red flags

A therapist has revealed the five red flags you may be ignoring during the honeymoon stage of your relationship that could foreshadow a messy breakup. 

Jeff Guenther, from Portland, Oregon, has become a viral sensation on TikTok for often sharing his expertise in the love and romance departments. 

Most recently, he shared a video to his 2.5 million followers detailing the things you may be overlooking when you are madly in love with your partner. 

According to the love specialist, a partner who always wants to ‘keep the peace’ or is ‘overly reliant’ on you can lead to trouble further down the line. 

Jeff Guenther, from Portland, Oregon, has revealed the five red flags you may be ignoring during the honeymoon stage of your relationship that could foreshadow a messy breakup

He has become a viral sensation on TikTok for often sharing his expertise in the love and romance departments

He has become a viral sensation on TikTok for often sharing his expertise in the love and romance departments

According to the love specialist, a partner who always wants to 'keep the peace' or is 'overly reliant' on you can lead to trouble further down the line

According to the love specialist, a partner who is 'overly controlling' can lead to trouble

According to the love specialist, a partner who is ‘overly controlling’ or is ‘jealous’ can lead to trouble further down the line

The key to a perfect relationship? The red flags you should never ignore during the honeymoon phase

  • Overly controlling 
  • Jealousy and possessiveness 
  • No boundaries 
  • Avoids conflict 
  • Overdependency 

 

Captioning the clip, ‘Five red flags you’re ignoring in the honeymoon stage,’ the therapist revealed what you should be looking out for. 

Jeff revealed the first warning sign is someone who is ‘overly controlling.’ 

He explained that while it may seem like a ‘good sign,’ you should proceed with caution if you notice this. 

‘Don’t mistake this a good sign because they seem to be able to ask for what they want but really they are attempting to control who you spend time with or what you do,’ he revealed. 

For the next tip the therapist revealed that although we all want someone who is ‘obsessed’ with us, it isn’t always a good sign. 

He explained that jealousy and possessiveness are huge red flags in a relationship. 

‘How sweet does it feel when someone’s obsessed with you? I guess it feels great but their insecurity issues might get out of hand, so keep an eye out,’ the therapist advised. 

Being close with your partner is a give, but never setting any boundaries or spending time apart can cause things to go south. 

‘Number three, lack of boundaries,’ he said. 

He continued: ‘Feeling smothered can feel super loving, but also a partner that doesn’t respect your limits or consistently pressures you to do things that you are uncomfortable with is not okay.’ 

Being close with your partner is a give, but never setting any boundaries or spending time apart can cause things to go south

Being close with your partner is a give, but never setting any boundaries or spending time apart can cause things to go south

Lastly, the final warning sign you should keep an eye out for is someone who avoids conflict

Lastly, the final warning sign you should keep an eye out for is someone who is dependent

Lastly, the final warning signs you should keep an eye out for during the initial stages of your relationship is someone who avoids conflict and is dependent

Having an argument with your partner is fun but it may be necessary, according to the therapist who claimed the fourth red flag to look out for was someone who avoids conflict. 

‘While it’s natural to want to keep the peace during the honeymoon phase, avoiding conflict entirely can lead to unresolved issues and resentment down the line,’ Jeff explained. 

Lastly, the final warning sign you should keep an eye out for during the initial stages of your relationship is someone who is overdependent. 

‘Love feeling needed, but a partner who is overly reliant on you for emotional or financial support may struggle with independence and personal growth,’ the love expert explained. 

Viewers flocked to the comments section to thank the therapist, with many even revealing they ignored the red flags in previous relationships. 

Viewers flocked to the comments section to thank the therapist, with many even revealing they ignored the red flags in previous relationships

Viewers flocked to the comments section to thank the therapist, with many even revealing they ignored the red flags in previous relationships

‘I ignored all of these. Now I’m eight and a half years into a relationship and getting a divorce,’ commented one person. 

One user said: ‘Just summed up my last two relationships – I’m working on my issues. Thank you.’ 

‘All five and I married him. I wish I never had,’ shared another person. 

Another person added: ‘Ugh my ex in a nutshell.’  

 ‘I’m so glad you do these videos,’ wrote one user. 

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