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Leah Simmons reveals why separating from her husband has only helped strengthen their love

Personal trainer reveals she quietly split with her husband of five years in shock post – and admits she’s now MORE in love with him than before

  • Personal trainer Leah Simmons separated from her husband Adrian Reed
  • The 44-year-old mother-of-two made the announcement on her Instagram
  • She said the pair are now closer than ever after making the decision to separate
  • Ms Simmons explained that ‘labels’ are not always necessary to prove devotion
  • They have been together for seven years and married for five of them 


A mother-of-two has laid bare why she separated from her husband of five years – and why the decision has only helped her fall more in love with him and their life together.

Personal trainer Leah Simmons, who is the founder of workout website KΛΛIΛΛ, shared details on Sunday about her split from Adrian Reed after being ‘intimately together’ for seven years.

‘Two months ago my husband and I separated and I’ve never been more in love with him,’ the 44-year-old wrote on Instagram.

‘Relationships are funny things. First we define them by giving them a label. Spouse, parent, child, friend, colleague… And once we’ve established what we are we try to satisfy that narrative by displaying particular behaviours to validate the label.’ 

Personal trainer Leah Simmons, who is the founder of workout website KΛΛIΛΛ, shared details on Sunday about her split from Adrian Reed after being ‘intimately together’ for seven years

'Two months ago my husband and I separated and I've never been more in love with him,' the 44-year-old wrote on Instagram (Ms Simmons and Mr Reed pictured)

‘Two months ago my husband and I separated and I’ve never been more in love with him,’ the 44-year-old wrote on Instagram (Ms Simmons and Mr Reed pictured)

She explained that trying to live up to the expectations associated with a label like girlfriend, boyfriend, husband and wife can leave both individuals ‘frustrated’ if the other person isn’t ‘holding up their end of the bargain’.

‘Cracks start to appear and the relationship “breaks down”. And more often than not we think it’s what the other person is doing when in actual fact it’s our own fears that prevent us from speaking up and facing how we really feel,’ she said.

‘What if the only relationship we focused on was the one with ourselves? Establishing a values set that was authentic to us. Being radically honest about what it is we want and not being afraid to communicate that.   

‘Cultivating such a deep love for ourselves that we are able to view everyone in our lives through a lens of compassion, acceptance and gratitude.’

Ms Simmons told Daily Mail Australia it wasn’t ‘one’ particular conversation that sparked their separation but it started off as a ‘feeling’.

Ms Simmons told Daily Mail Australia it wasn't 'one' particular conversation that sparked their separation but started off as a 'feeling' (pictured on their wedding day)

Ms Simmons told Daily Mail Australia it wasn’t ‘one’ particular conversation that sparked their separation but started off as a ‘feeling’ (pictured on their wedding day)

'Rather than staying in something for "optics" or doing it "for the sake of the kids" (which we know is more damaging than not) we decided to go our separate ways,' she said

‘Rather than staying in something for “optics” or doing it “for the sake of the kids” (which we know is more damaging than not) we decided to go our separate ways,’ she said

As they both value honesty and open communication they started to talk about these feelings and realised while they were aligned in most ways there were a few ‘fundamental areas’ that they weren’t seeing eye-to-eye on.  

‘Rather than staying in something for “optics” or doing it “for the sake of the kids” (which we know is more damaging than not) we decided to go our separate ways,’ she said.

‘We don’t look at it like a “break up”, more of a “break through”… there is a level of respect and love in our relationship now that only wants the best for the other… no strings attached.’

Ms Simmons explained that Adrian helped her uncover a version of herself that has allowed her to live with more love, honesty and joy. 

Ms Simmons explained that Adrian helped her uncover a version of herself that has allowed her to live with more love, more honesty and more joy

Ms Simmons explained that Adrian helped her uncover a version of herself that has allowed her to live with more love, more honesty and more joy

'Thank you for letting us in on your journey. You both have beautiful souls and big hearts, you can just tell,' one woman replied

‘Thank you for letting us in on your journey. You both have beautiful souls and big hearts, you can just tell,’ one woman replied

‘And now as we embark on the next chapter of our “relationship” the depth of love I feel for him has transcended any and all labels.’

Many of her 62,000 Instagram followers were quick to offer messages of support, saying that they understood what she meant and were all the better for reading her reflective post.

‘Thank you for letting us in on your journey. You both have beautiful souls and big hearts, you can just tell,’ one woman replied.

‘Ah, more of this kind of love. Radical honesty with self and (thus naturally) others. To grow and to grow and to grow,’ said another.



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