Revealed: The six warning signs your partner secretly can’t stand you – including making jokes and passive aggressive comments
- A matchmaker has revealed how to know if your partner can’t bear you anymore
- Yvonne Allen said they often don’t verbalise resent but behave in certain ways
- She said a sign could be if a partner argues with you about the smallest things
- Another giveaway clue is them appearing to enjoy your downfalls or setbacks
A renowned Australian matchmaker has revealed six tell-tale signs your partner resents you – and says many are unaware of them.
According to psychologist and relationship mentor Yvonne Allen, those who are jealous or are angry at their other half often do not verbalise their feelings.
‘Many people in relationships are unaware their partner is feeling resentful towards them,’ Yvonne said.
‘However, if not addressed it usually manifests in signs which are likely to result in unpleasant behaviour, frustration and even fights.’
Speaking to FEMAIL, the founder of Yvonne Allen and Associates warned the nation’s spouses about the clues they should be looking out for.
A renowned Australian matchmaker has revealed six tell-tale signs your partner can’t stand you
1. They become argumentative
Yvonne said a key sign your partner could be bearing ill will towards you is if they suddenly start picking fights when you were previously happy together.
‘If for some unknown reason things change and your partner starts to become argumentative, this can be a sign,’ she said.
‘If they start arguing over small things that seem irrelevant or miniscule, there is a clearly a reason for the underlying anger.’
The six signs your partner is feeling resentful towards you
They become argumentative
They stop showing affection
They make fun of you
They seem to enjoy it when things go wrong for you
They withdraw from physical intimacy
They become passive aggressive
2. They stop showing affection
The relationship expert said a drop-off in the level of affection you receive from your partner can be a tell-tale sign they feel can’t stand you.
‘Perhaps they used to leave post it notes around, gave you little hugs, called you to tell you they love you, left little gifts around the home for you – and now this has stopped,’ Yvonne said.
‘This may mean they are holding back their affection because they feel resentful.’
3. They make fun of you
Sharing your partner’s sense of humour is a part of many successful relationships, but Yvonne said you should watch for when the jokes turn sour.
‘A resentful partner may say or do things in a joking way towards you which are hurtful,’ she said.
‘While they say they are joking, the jokes or snide comments contain undertones of real resentment or jealousy.’
4. They seem to enjoy it when things go wrong for you
The matchmaking expert of more than 30 years said if your partner doesn’t have your back when you have disappointing moments in your life, this could be a sign.
It could also be a sign they are bearing a grudge if your spouse blames you for your setbacks.
Yvonne Allen said if your partner doesn’t have your back when you have disappointing moments in your life, this could be a sign
5. They withdraw from physical intimacy
In a similar manner to some of the other signs, Yvonne said a reduction in sexual conduct with your partner may be a sign they can’t stand you anymore.
‘If you have had a mutually rewarding sex life with your partner and then things start to go south, this may be a sign,’ she said.
‘They may withhold sexual sexual intimacy to punish you or make you feel unloved or no longer appealing.’
6. They become passive aggressive
According to Yvonne, this trait can be displayed through procrastinating, expressing sullenness or acting stubborn.
She adds passive aggressiveness can also manifest itself in your partner talking the talk, but not walking the walk.
‘While your partner may be saying the right things, their behaviour does not match their words,’ she said.
The relationship expert said a drop-off in the level of affection you receive from your partner can be a tell-tale sign they feel can’t stand you