Life coach advises men to not let their partners make too many decisions or they may not want sex

A tradie turned life coach has sparked controversy after claiming the reason women don’t want to have sex is because their partners are expecting them to make all the decisions.

Ant Marino, who is based on the Gold Coast, said that women prefer to be ‘lead’ and want the man to be ‘decisive’.

The ‘mind mechanic’ runs programme to help men ‘uncover and break free from the barriers that are holding them back and create a life that’s authentic to them’.

Ant was slammed as ‘insulting’ and an ‘Andrew Tate wannabe’ by some women, however others agreed with his comments.

Ant quit his job as a diesel mechanic, where he felt unfulfilled and uninspired, to become a fulltime life coach and now aims to help other men on their journey to fulfill their ‘masculine calling’

‘Sorry to break it to you bro, but the reason why you might not bet getting as much time in the bedroom with her is because you’re making her make too many decisions,’ he said on his now viral TikTok.

‘The feminine loves to be lead and for the masculine to be decisive.’

‘If she has been making decisions all day, it’s more than likely she doesn’t want to make any more when she gets home, so make some decisions to create polarity and watch her soften for you.’

Ant outlined that it’s not the decision to have sex that women need to be assisted with but other day to day decisions such planning dates so they are not drained and uninterested in intimacy.

He recently shared a video advising men that they are ‘co*k blocking themselves’ by asking someone on a date and not picking the time and venue.

However, there was a very mixed reaction to his video, which has now been viewed 1.3 million times.

‘We don’t like to be led. We want partners who share the mental load equally and value our time and energy,’ one woman said.

‘Tell me you’ve got an Andrew Tate poster on your ceiling without telling me,’ another wrote.

‘Yes, but also don’t disregard her ability to make decisions if she has an opinion or preference, obviously,’ another commented.

However, others agreed that men stepping up with decisions is important. 

‘It’s exhausting being a mother and a girlfriend/wife simultaneously,’ one woman wrote.

‘Being the responsible one, the constant decision maker is exhausting physically and mentally,’ another agreed.

 Ant was slammed as an Andrew Tate wannabe by some women, however many people agreed with his comments

‘So true. Once my husband stepped up with making the decisions I started wanting it all the time,’ another wrote.

Ant quit his job as a diesel mechanic, where he felt unfulfilled and uninspired, to become a fulltime life coach and now aims to help other men on their journey to fulfill their ‘masculine calling’.

The decision making Ant is referring to is often called the ‘mental load’ and refers to women shouldering the logistical burden of family life by making the majority of decisions regarding organising dinners, playdates, laundry and more.

Ant seems to be drawing from theories relating to masculine and feminine polarity, which have been popularised in recent years.

The controversial theories focus on women reclaiming their femininity and acting ‘softer’, while men take on the traditional masculine role of leader.