The suicide of a young surfer who died just a month after celebrating his 20th birthday has shattered the hearts of his family, which includes a TV personality uncle, a motivational speaker father and footy star stepfather, Kieran Foran.
Logan Steinwede, who had dreamed of becoming a professional surfer since he was a young boy, was discovered by his grandparents on Monday morning.
His uncle, parenting expert and TV host Dr Justin Coulson, announced his death on Tuesday in a heartbreaking, 900-word post on social media.
‘Logan was staying at my parents house the night he took his life. My mum and dad – his Nan and Pop – found him on Monday morning,’ wrote Dr Coulson.
‘Too late to help. Too late to do anything except scream “No”.
Logan Steinwede, 20, who had dreamed of becoming a professional surfer since he was a young boy, was discovered by his grandparents on Monday morning after taking his own life (pictured with his mother Karina Foran)
Pictured: Logan and his mother in an Instagram post she shared on his final birthday last month
‘Too late for him to hear them as they cried his name over and over again: “Logan! Logan! Logan! Logan!” “No, no, no, no, no!!!!”.’
Logan’s mother, Karina – who is Dr Coulson’s sister – was in Melbourne for a celebratory weekend with her husband – and Logan’s stepfather – the Gold Coast Titans halfback Kieran Foran, when she heard the devastating news.
Karina, who works as a hairdresser and fitness instructor, shared a video on Tuesday of her and her late son Logan arm-in-arm on a trail walk in June this year.
Dr Coulson (pictured), who hosts Channel Nine’s Parental Guidance program, said his nephew was ‘the most energetic and delightful kid I know. Kind. Fun. Laughing all the time’
‘I would give anything my boy,’ she captioned the heartbreaking post.
She later shared a picture of Logan carrying a surfboard on a beach, writing: ‘My boy. My heart is not in my chest.’
Karina married Foran in 2018 after a year of dating, having divorced Logan’s father, Mat, several years before.
Mat was former homeless drug addict on Australia’s Most Wanted List before he met Karina and turned his life around, forging a multi-million dollar career as a real estate agent.
Logan’s father, who now does motivational speaking and hosts the 31 Minute podcast, shared three sons with Karina before they split up.
Both have children from other relationships.
Mat’s new wife, Tara, gave birth to a baby girl – Logan’s half-sister – just six weeks ago.
Logan’s father had nourished his talent for surfing from a young age, which saw him on the cusp of signing a pro-contract before his tragic death.
A profile on X, formerly Twitter, set-up in 2011 reveals Logan had a long-held ambition to pursue a professional surfing career.
‘My name is Logan and I’m 8 I’m going to be a pro surfer,’ the profile bio wrote.
‘My goal is to be sponsored by Hurley, Red Bull & Dylan. I practice everyday with my Dad.’
Logan’s mother married NRL superstar Kieran Foran in 2018 after a year of dating (pictured)
Logan is pictured far-left on the couple’s wedding day
On Wednesday, Logan’s brother Jaxson shared a picture of him smiling in the surf.
‘Tell your family that you love them, never go to bed on bad terms and just love each other you never know when you’ll have your last conversation with someone,’ Jaxson wrote.
Dr Coulson, who hosts Channel Nine’s Parental Guidance program, revealed Logan left a note.
‘But the note won’t bring peace or relief to anyone… Because he’s dead,’ Dr Coulson said.
He wrote movingly and honestly about how he was ‘not doing so well’.
‘My heart is shattered. Shattered for Logan. But also for his parents and siblings, and for my parents,’ he wrote.
But the parenting expert did not ask for sympathy, instead calling for people to reach out to others who may be struggling.
‘There are nine suicides every single day in Australia,’ he wrote. ‘Seven of those nine suicides each day are men. Two of those nine are women.’
Suicide is the leading cause of death among people aged 15-24.
Logan’s father, Mat (pictured), was former homeless drug addict on Australia’s Most Wanted List before he met Karina and turned his life around, forging a multi-million dollar career as a real estate agent. He is now a motivational speaker and podcaster
Logan and his dad are pictured together in a YouTube video recorded in 2019 where he outlined his desire to eventually become a professional surfer
Dr Coulson pointed out what can be done to help, saying that strong social connections reduce the chance of suicide.
‘Please, please, please, PLEASE be kind. Be compassionate. Be gentle. Be inclusive. Be supportive. Be less critical and judgmental and more of a cheerleader,’ Dr Coulson said.
‘Don’t be on your kid’s back (or your partner/spouse’s back). Instead, make sure you’ve got their back. Love them and make sure they know it. They have to know they matter.’
Dr Coulson also said that people should stop saying ‘I have no words’ when they are confronted with tragic news, even though using that phrase is well-intentioned.
Last week, on his Happy Families Podcast, he spoke with Colin Campbell, the author of a book called Finding the Words, which he wrote after his two teenagers died in a car crash.
In stark words on social media, Dr Coulson said ‘My nephew died on Sunday night. He died by suicide.’ Logan is pictured
The parenting expert called for people to reach out to those who might be struggling. Logan’s mother shared the above picture with the caption: ‘My boy. My heart is not in my chest’
‘Colin makes the point that when we say “there are no words” we are, in some sense, reducing the person’s life to nothing.
‘We have to find the words, because the words we find tell the stories of those we love. And those stories help us to celebrate their life and our love for them,’ he said.
Dr Coulson advised that people should share their stories, feel their pain and elevate their experiences.
‘Find. The. Words. They’re there. And we need to share them,’ he said.
He added: ‘Everyone needs someone to talk to. Everyone needs to know they matter. Everyone needs to feel seen, heard and valued.’
Logan (pictured) was remembered by his uncle as the ‘most energetic and delightful kid I know. Kind. Fun. Laughing all the time’
Dr Coulson then made what he said was a simple point.
‘If you are struggling, or a loved one is struggling, talk to someone. A relative. A friend. Call Lifeline. Get in touch with Beyond Blue, Gotcha4Life, or the Movember foundation (because, yep… Logan died in a month dedicated to men’s mental health: Movember).
‘Talk with a local church leader, a trusted neighbour, someone. Reach out. Tell people they matter.’
He ended his powerful message on suicide, grief and the power of talking, by saying: ‘I miss Logan. Please hug your kids. Hug your husband/wife/spouse/partner.
‘And share this message and this love with everyone who needs to know how much they matter.’
Dr Coulson politely declined to comment further when approached by Daily Mail Australia.
Logan’s parents were approached for comment.
Lifeline: 13 11 14
Suicide Callback Service: 1300 659 467
Mensline Australia: 1300 789 987
Kids Helpline: 1800 55 1800