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Louanne Ward: Single women reveal the unattractive mistake men make on a first date

Single women reveal the one VERY unattractive mistake men make on a first date that put them off for good

  • Singles are instantly turned off by someone trying ‘too hard’ to romance
  • Relationship expert Louanne Ward, from Perth, sparked the conversation online  
  • Texting someone too often or being ‘too nice’ can be enough to scare off a date 
  • Some deem chivalry to be ‘suspicious’ while others feel ‘overwhelmed’ 

A group of single Australians have revealed the one behavioural trait that instantly turns them off when dating.

Many admitted they’ve been deterred from someone who comes across overly ‘desperate’, ‘tries too hard’ and is ‘too keen’ to see them again.

Leading relationship expert Louanne Ward, from Perth, sparked the conversation on Facebook after asking how much is ‘too much’.

While some desire romance and chivalry, it can sometimes backfire when getting to know someone new. Singles have admitted they are instantly turned off it their date is ‘too keen’ after the first or second date (stock image)

Leading Australian relationship expert Louanne Ward, from Perth, sparked the conversation on Facebook after asking how much is 'too much'

Leading Australian relationship expert Louanne Ward, from Perth, sparked the conversation on Facebook after asking how much is ‘too much’

‘Have you ever been turned off by someone trying too hard to romance you on the first date?’ Ms Ward asked the ‘He Said She Said’ Facebook group.

While some desire romance and chivalry, it can sometimes backfire when getting to know someone new.

Simply texting someone too often or being ‘too nice’ can be enough to scare off a date.

Some deem chivalry to be ‘unnerving and suspicious’, while others feel ‘overwhelmed’. 

Poll

Have you ever been turned off by someone trying too hard to romance you on the first date?

  • Yes 107 votes
  • No 85 votes

‘Someone told me I was their kindred spirit. I stopped seeing them straight away, it was too much too soon,’ one woman wrote.

‘Even in the texting stage I can get easily turned off by keenness … if I went on a date with someone who acted like we were already in the honeymoon phase of a committed relationship, I’d be very overwhelmed,’ another added.

A single man said: ‘It’s only happened to me online texting. The other person claimed they were in love with me after ten minutes.’

Simply texting someone too often or being 'too nice' can be enough to scare off a date. Some deem chivalry to be 'unnerving and suspicious', while others feel 'overwhelmed' (stock image)

Simply texting someone too often or being ‘too nice’ can be enough to scare off a date. Some deem chivalry to be ‘unnerving and suspicious’, while others feel ‘overwhelmed’ (stock image)

Other offered their advice and encouraged singles to be their authentic selves when getting to know someone.

‘Just go on any date as long as you both can talk and listen to one another. Don’t be fake and don’t bring your excess baggage along,’ one man wrote.

‘The first date is essentially a ‘meet and greet’ to see if there’s chemistry, attraction and common ground,’ a single woman commented, adding: The second date is to scratch the surface, so to speak, and get to know them a little better.’

‘For me, anything over the top, is a distraction from getting to know him,’ she said.

Another man said the first date lasts no longer than 45 minutes over a drink or two, which is followed up with a second date if there’s a ‘spark’.

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