A mother has been praised for her honesty after she admitted to worrying that she wouldn’t love her second child as much as her first.
Louise Pentland, a 33-year-old vlogger from Northampton, who is now mother to seven-year-old Darcy and 11-month-old Pearl, revealed that during her second pregnancy she grew concerned over the changing family dynamics.
Taking to her Instagram page this week ahead of baby Pearl’s first birthday, Louise admitted that a year earlier she had been suffering from anxiety over whether her feelings towards Pearl would be as special as those she felt for her firstborn, Darcy.
Revealing that her concerns were unfounded and her love was ‘doubled instead of halved’, Louise was praised by her 2.4million followers for her honest confession.
Louise Pentland, a 33-year-old vlogger from Northampton, mother to Darcy, 7, and 11-month-old Pearl, (pictured last summer) took to Instagram this week to admit she was scared the bond with her second child wouldn’t be as strong as the love for her firstborn
Taking to her Instagram page this week ahead of baby Pearl’s first birthday, Louise admitted that a year earlier she had been suffering from anxiety over whether her feelings towards Pearl would be as special as those she felt for her firstborn, Darcy
Posting a throwback picture as she posed for a pregnancy shoot alongside daughter Darcy at the end of 2017, Louise wrote: ‘I’m thinking a lot about this time last year at the moment.
‘Pearl was due Jan 1st so everyday was potentially my last as the ‘Mummy & Darcy Team’.’
Explaining her feelings ahead of Pearl’s arrival, she continued: ‘I was really anxious that I wouldn’t be able to love Pearl the same way I love Darcy, who feels just so so special to me.
‘I didn’t want to talk about that much because I felt pregnant women were supposed to instantly gush with love for their growing babe and I was still fearful. Anyone else felt that?’
Posting a throwback picture as she posed for a pregnancy shoot alongside daughter Darcy at the end of 2017, Louise admitted she was worried before giving birth to Pearl last January. She is seen during her second pregnancy towards the end of 2017
Revealing that her concerns were unfounded and her love was ‘doubled instead of halved’, Louise was praised by her 2.4million followers for her honest confession
Revealing that she was relieved to find her love was doubled instead of halved, she continued: ‘Pearl was cosy in there and didn’t pop out until the 14th and mine and Darcy’s team got a brand new member.
‘Thankfully, a mother’s heart is pretty cool because it doesn’t half with a new child but doubles instead.’
Encouraging mothers to support each other, Louise concluded: ‘Essentially, and I hope you don’t mind the bluntness here- it’s ok to be scared sh***ess that you might be a c**p mum, your heart will surprise you.
‘Please do feel free to share your fears or support other women in the comments but of course be respectful and kind- you never know what kind of day someone is having xxx’.
Revealing that she was relieved to find her love was doubled instead of halved, Louise- pictured last month with her daughters, wrote: ‘Thankfully, a mother’s heart is pretty cool because it doesn’t half with a new child but doubles instead.’
Encouraging mothers to support each other, Louise, seen last year with Pearl and Darcy, said in her post: ‘Essentially, and I hope you don’t mind the bluntness here- it’s ok to be scared sh***ess that you might be a c**p mum, your heart will surprise you.
Louise’s frank post quickly racked up almost 140,000 likes, with followers praising her honesty and admitting they could relate to her fears
And her frank post quickly racked up almost 140,000 likes, with followers praising her honesty and admitting they could relate to her fears.
‘Love this honesty Louise’, a mother replied, while one added: ‘Such an important sentiment to share! Thank you for your words!’.
Agreeing, one follower said: ‘I love the term you use about a mother’s heart of not going half but doubled. I felt the same when unexpectedly after 14 years another blessing will come to our lives after having 2 teenagers’.
Telling her own story, one mother wrote: ‘I hated my pregnancy, I felt no bond with my baby and I was terrified to say it out loud.
‘I was unbelievably grateful to be pregnant, she was a baby we’d spent so long trying for, but the second she was placed on my chest my world completely changed, in that moment I have never loved anything/anyone anymore.’
Revealing that she was currently experiencing the same concerns, a pregnant mother added: ‘I’m 30 weeks pregnant with my second and have the exact same feeling.
‘Even that I feel this pregnancy has flew by so much quicker than my first and fear it’s because I’m not looking forward to it as much as I did the first time . Then I feel sh** for feeling like this’.
‘I love that you posted this’: One follower admitted that she was scared how she would feel if she got pregnant by having IVF and praised Louise for sharing the post
Revealing that she was currently experiencing the same concerns, a pregnant mother said that she was waiting for her second baby to arrive and was experiencing the exact same feeling
Telling her own story, one mother wrote: ‘I hated my pregnancy, I felt no bond with my baby and I was terrified to say it out loud.’
Louise is seen with husband Liam and their children Darcy and Pearl at the Warner Brother Studios in London last November