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Love Island’s Jessica Hayes insists ‘the support isn’t there’ following tragic miscarriage

She tragically lost her second child – a baby boy named Teddy, 19 weeks into pregnancy. 

And now, Jessica Hayes, 28, has insisted that ‘the support isn’t there’ after being left to find help for herself, after leaving hospital following her tragic miscarriage. 

Appearing on Tuesday’s BBC Breakfast, the Love Island star spoke of her experience of baby loss, and admitted: ‘It’s not something you ever get over!’ 

Speaking out: Jessica Hayes, 28, has insisted that ‘the support isn’t there’ after being left to find help for herself, after leaving hospital following her tragic miscarriage

Jessica explained: ‘I know time can be a healer, but at the time time you’ve always got those milestones: Those birthdays, those Christmases – all those things that really bring it to the surface again.

‘And, I feel like the support isn’t there. You kind of leave the hospital and you’re left to your own devices.

‘You have to go and get the help for yourself, so that really needs to change!’ asserted the reality star 

Baby loss: Appearing on Tuesday's BBC Breakfast, the Love Island star spoke of her experience of baby loss, and admitted: 'It's not something you ever get over!'

Baby loss: Appearing on Tuesday’s BBC Breakfast, the Love Island star spoke of her experience of baby loss, and admitted: ‘It’s not something you ever get over!’

Heartbreaking: The reality star revealed in December that she had tragically lost her son, Teddy, at 19 weeks, emotionally sharing at the time that she was 'drowning in grief'

Heartbreaking: The reality star revealed in December that she had tragically lost her son, Teddy, at 19 weeks, emotionally sharing at the time that she was ‘drowning in grief’ 

In July, Jessica revealed that she is in therapy for baby loss and credited son Presley, two, for being a ‘major part’ of the reason she has stayed so strong, but admitted: ‘I have days where I just sit and cry!’ 

The reality star – who won the 2015 series of Love Island – admitted that she still wants three children, after confirming her split from fiancé Dan Lowry.  

She spoke to new! magazine about losing Teddy last November and said: ‘I’ve had some therapy and spoken to someone and that’s definitely helped… I have days where I just sit and cry, and all I want is him back, but that’s just grief.’ 

Looking to the future, Jessica revealed that she still intends to expand her family, saying: ‘I’ve always said I want three children and that won’t change for me because it’s my dream.’  

Grief: In July, Jessica revealed that she is in therapy for baby loss, but admitted: 'I have days where I just sit and cry!'

Grief: In July, Jessica revealed that she is in therapy for baby loss, but admitted: ‘I have days where I just sit and cry!’

Dan – who she became engaged to in August 2018 after six months of dating – moved out after the couple parted ways in May, just six months after losing their unborn baby.

Jessica admitted: ‘You don’t expect everything to unravel so quickly. To lose a baby and the person you thought you were going to have more children with and get married to, it’s been a bit of a shock.’  

But the Love Islander branded her ex an ‘amazing dad,’ and explained that their split may not be forever, but that they simply need ‘time apart’.  

Despite being single, Jessica insisted she’s not interested in dating as she confessed: ‘I can’t deal with anymore heartbreak, honestly!’   

Staying strong: The Love Islander previously credited son Presley, two, for being a 'major part' of the reason she has stayed so strong

Staying strong: The Love Islander previously credited son Presley, two, for being a ‘major part’ of the reason she has stayed so strong

 

Back in May, Jessica told MailOnline that by bravely sharing her own experience, she has helped other people to not ‘feel alone’.

The reality star said that she also hopes to give her followers ‘strength’ knowing that there is also life after loss, adding: ‘It makes you realise how strong you are.’  

Jessica revealed in December that she had tragically lost her son, Teddy, at 19 weeks, emotionally sharing at the time that she was ‘drowning in grief’.

The TV personality said that she knew it was important to be ‘open with everything’ and that she has since received hundreds of messages from women who have been through the same thing, thanking her for ‘helping’ them and giving them a ‘voice’. 

It's over! Dan - who she became engaged to in August 2018 - moved out after the couple parted ways in May, just six months after losing their unborn baby (Pictured together in April)

It’s over! Dan – who she became engaged to in August 2018 – moved out after the couple parted ways in May, just six months after losing their unborn baby (Pictured together in April)

She said: ‘I’ve had hundreds of messages from other woman who have been through the same thing, saying thank you so much for helping me.

‘I think it’s really important to be open if you can and if that’s what you want to do as it helps so many people.’    

Jessica added that she tries to help as many people as she can but sometimes she finds other people’s stories about baby loss ‘hard’.

She explained: ‘I try to help as many people as I can, obviously, it can be hard. It is hard to read other people’s stories about baby loss. It can be hard to want to help everyone.’    

Jessica also revealed that she has previously taken medication for anxiety and depression on and off over the years, adding that she is ‘not ashamed’.     

Shock! 'To lose a baby and the person you thought you were going to have more children with and get married to, it's been a bit of a shock' said Jessica (Pictured with Dan at Teddy's grave)

Shock! ‘To lose a baby and the person you thought you were going to have more children with and get married to, it’s been a bit of a shock’ said Jessica (Pictured with Dan at Teddy’s grave)

The reality star said: ‘I will be completely honest, I have always suffered with my mental health on and off over the years, since I was young. 

‘Since I was very young, I’m trying to speak a bit more about it now, it is something I have struggled with for a while, especially anxiety as well, I really struggled with that.

‘I’m not ashamed to say in the past I have taken medication for anxiety and depression, on and off over the years.’ 

The Sands National Helpline provides a safe, confidential place for anyone who has been affected by the death of a baby. You can call the Sands Helpline on 0808 164 3332 helpline@sands.org.uk. 

If you have been affected by this article, you can also contact the charity Saying Goodbye on 0845 293 8027 or email support@sayinggoodbye.org. 

Important: The TV star said that by bravely sharing her own experience, she has helped others to not 'feel alone' (pictured paying tribute to late son Teddy in April with her other son Presley)

Important: The TV star said that by bravely sharing her own experience, she has helped others to not ‘feel alone’ (pictured paying tribute to late son Teddy in April with her other son Presley) 

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