Man sparks a fierce debate by asking if he was wrong to propose to his fiancee during her sister’s WEDDING trip to the Caribbean – as he reveals her siblings have ALL stopped speaking to her
- A user named SpicerJones on Reddit in a post detailing the engagement
- It happened one year ago when the man was attending his girlfriend’s sister’s Caribbean wedding
- The man originally was going to propose after the trip, but he decided to do it on the last night after receiving permission from his girlfriend’s dad
- He also asked the bride and groom if it was fine to propose after the wedding
- But his girlfriend’s sisters later stopped speaking to the couple after the event
A man has asked people online if he was wrong for proposing to his fiance during his sister’s destination wedding trip, and respondents were divided on if it was a respectful move or not.
The situation was shared by a user named SpicerJones on Reddit in a post detailing the engagement that occurred one year ago.
‘This was a year ago — I feel like I’d like some feedback from people,’ the man wrote. ‘Since people said this is important — adding it here: I proposed two days after the wedding.’
Bad idea? A user named SpicerJones on Reddit in a post detailing his engagement to his girlfriend during a destination wedding in the Caribbean (stock photo)
He then set the stage for the entire proposal, which took place in the Caribbean during a destination wedding for his girlfriend’s sister.
‘The wedding was always propositioned to us as “our vacation but we just have to show up for a wedding on Saturday for an hour,”‘ He wrote. ‘That was the description from the bride to be.’
Originally, the man planned to propose on their plane ride home from the trip or when they got home. He also intended to use the time during the trip to ask his girlfriend’s dad for permission.
‘The first day we got there — I went to her middle sister (not the bride) and her husband because I was super excited and wanted to share,’ he detailed.
‘I told them I had an engagement ring and before I could say anything else — her sister started berating me. “Do not propose while you are here, I will kill you if you do that. I will make sure my whole family hates you.”‘
The man decided to wait until after the wedding to ask his girlfriend’s dad for permission. They weren’t leaving until Tuesday while most of the guests were leaving on that Monday.
Thankfully, the father’s reaction was great, with the Reddit user revealing that he had ‘biggest smile’ and asked to see the ring.
‘I asked him, he got the biggest smile and gave me a huge hug — it was so awesome,’ the man wrote. ‘The love and excitement her Dad was pouring out made me feel so much better about everything; that moment is still really dear to my heart to this day.’
He then advised for the boyfriend to actually propose to his daughter at dinner on that Monday evening, two days following the wedding, while everyone was still in the Caribbean instead of waiting until after the trip.
‘I hesitated but didn’t shoot it down — he was so excited and happy,’ the post continued. ‘I told him I’d have to check with the bride/groom to make sure — I didn’t want to step on any toes.’
Luckily, all three sisters responded saying the proposal was fine as long as it happened after dinner.
‘So I proposed later that evening, in private, she says yes — we hang by the pool at night and celebrate,’ he explained, adding: ‘Cut forward a month — her sisters stop talking to her; they hate me because I proposed.
‘I waited to even talk to her dad until people started leaving the resort, half the people were already gone the night I proposed.’
The man wanted to know if he was in the wrong for proposing during the vacation.
Most commenters could not understand why the sisters would cut off all communication with the couple following the proposal.
‘He asked the sisters if it would be alright to ask after the dinner… the answer was yes,’ one commenter wrote. ‘Her dad is the one that asked he do it before the whole family left so I see no problem. Congratulations on your wedding.’
Many other people thought it was ‘idiotic’ for the newly married couple to treat the evenings following their wedding ceremony as part of the event, so commenters thought there was no reason the engagement should be a problem.
The man later updated commenters that the sisters were talking again, but they were still refusing to speak to him after the proposal despite him issuing multiple apologies for the moment.