A mother has been branded ‘vile’ after she confessed to hating her step-son in a new online post.
The British woman, known only as Tess, took to Netmums on Thursday where she revealed that she was struggling to bond with her husband’s son, admitting that he makes her ‘flesh crawl’ and she wants to ‘smack him’.
However, while Tess was hoping for advice from other mothers on the forum many were horrified by her confession, with several questioning what could warrant such hatred.
In the post Tess, who has a daughter from a previous relationship as well as a three month old with her husband, revealed that she has been with her partner 18 months having got married ten months in to the relationship.
A mother has been dubbed ‘vile’ on a Netmums thread after admitting that she ‘hates’ her step-son and wants to ‘smack him’
She explains: ‘I’ve known this man and his son for years. I’m really close with his family, having been on holiday with them etc for many years.
‘I got on fine with my step son before we were together, and even when we first got married, but now I’m having real problems. I hate weekends, I hate him coming here to stay.
‘He’s always questioning everything, butting into conversations and generally being annoying.
‘I’ve spoken to my other half about this and he just says to tell him off, but I really want to smack him, which I would never do, but it bothers me that the urge is there.’
Tess goes on to explain that her step-son who is 11, can be ‘disrespectful at times’ but is fairly tidy.
The user known as Tess, explained that she had even taken a weekend job to try and avoid her 11-year-old step son, and that her partner didn’t understand her issues
She went on to explain that her husband works night shifts and sleeps on Sunday afternoons, leaving her alone with his son.
She continues: ‘I find anything and everything to distance myself from him.
‘I know that he’s not stupid and has probably picked up on the fact that I don’t like him, which leaves me feeling so ashamed of myself for feeling like this. I just don’t know where to go next.
‘I can’t stand him hugging me or trying to sit next to me. He makes my flesh crawl. This is really hard to admit, but I hate him.’
Tess then reveals that she even took a weekend job to try and avoid him, which has since finished.
Fellow Netmums members were left in shock and suggested that she seek professional help with some surprised that her husband chose to stay with her
Explaining that her husband ‘doesn’t get it’ she asked members of the parenting forum for their advice – but was met with little sympathy.
In fact many suggested that her husband end the relationship as a result of her attitude.
One user named Amy wrote: Wow I’m going to be brutally honest here as quite frankly I can’t quite believe what I’ve just read… he’s a child. He’s 11 years old.
‘Quite frankly, if my partner was like you about my child then he would no longer be my partner.’
Agreeing another added: ‘God he is 11. They talk a lot. They ask questions. The fact that you feel like slapping him just for butting in to your conversation shows you have an issue.’
Lisa wrote: ‘If you said this about my son you’d be gone. How your husband can even put up with you talking like this about his child is beyond. What a poor poor kid having a step mother like you. You’re absolutely vile.’
One member even suggested that she seek advice from a therapist.
User Lollypop wrote: ‘I think you need to seek professional help.
‘This is really unfair on your stepson and his dad, who has been like a father to your own daughter and you admit you wouldn’t be happy if he hated her.
‘Your feelings are completely out of order and you need to get help before you damage that young boy.’