A mother-to-be desperate to name her son Gaylord to respect her family’s tradition claims her in-laws have told her it would be ‘abusive’.
The anonymous woman, 23, believed to be from the US, told how she and her husband, 24, are expecting their first child in August.
The baby boy will be the first grandchild on her side of the family, and the expectant mother said genealogy is ‘very important’ to her relatives.
However, she explained that what is supposed to be a ‘happy, exciting time’ is now causing her heartache because she and her husband disagree over the name of their impending arrival.
The anonymous woman, 23, believed to be from the US, told how she and her husband, 24, are expecting their first child in August. Pictured: stock image
The mother-to-be said her husband agreed they would call him Gaylord, after her father and grandfather, a year ago, but he’s now ‘going back on his word’.
Writing on Reddit, she said she is ‘crushed’ because ‘this is so important to my entire family’.
‘In my family, our genealogy is extremely important,’ she said. ‘The firstborn son since the 1800s has been given this name. I’m well aware it’s a stigmatized name today, so that’s why I have agreed to using a short form. The name is Gaylord.
‘I get it, trust me, I know most people hate it. That is why I’ve been able to discuss with my parents and grandparents that he will go by Gail in daily life so that he doesn’t have to deal with bullies.
Writing on Reddit , she said she is ‘crushed’ by the disagreement because ‘this is so important to my entire family’
‘They really didn’t like the idea, but I wore them down and they have agreed and don’t seem too offended by this. They see the backlash over the name today as a fad that will eventually disappear, and I agree seeing how accepting each generation tends to become. When society stops being so immature about it, he can start using the full name.’
When she told her husband her plan and asked if he agreed, she said he ‘kind of chuckled’ and said ‘sure’.
‘I thought it was settled,’ she went on. ‘But now he’s claiming he never agreed and thought I was kidding. Why would he think that when he’s met my father and grandpa?
‘He won’t even discuss it with me now, and has since told his parents of my name choice. I now have his whole family hounding me and overreacting, telling me it would be abusive even when we’d just be calling him Gail. My mother told me my MIL has called her to scream at her over the phone.’
The woman claimed her in-laws told her Gail isn’t an acceptable boy’s name, and she needs to ‘get with the times’ and ‘choose something more appropriate’.
Reddit generally sided with the woman’s in-laws, prompting the mother-to-be to edit her post, admitting she was surprised by the ‘hostility’ she received in response
She added that they gave her a list of approved names, which she found ‘incredibly offensive’.
‘Not to mention they were trendy names that would never stand the test of time,’ she went on. ‘They have no right to name my own baby for me. I don’t think my husband would have such an issue if it wasn’t for his family sticking their nose where it doesn’t belong, since he didn’t have a problem with it a year ago.
‘What happened to respecting our elders and traditions? His family doesn’t have any naming traditions, so it should fall to my family that does. How could I be expected to break a centuries old family tradition? Are we really going to let immature homophobia dictate what we can and can’t do? I can’t get past this, and neither can my in-laws.’
But Reddit generally sided with the woman’s in-laws, prompting the mother-to-be to edit her post, admitting she was surprised by the ‘hostility’ she received in response.
One Redditor wrote: ‘I work with elementary age children and this is a terrible idea. I’m sorry, but no. Definitely do not name your child Gaylord in any form or fashion.’
Another commented: ‘You both are letting family into a decision that is really between you and your husband. I think you should talk this out with your husband, and leave both sets of in-laws out of the discussion. You should both have an equal say in naming your child, and don’t be dismissive of one another.’
Some were less brutal, and offered ideas for a compromise, such as changing Gail to Gale
And one wrote: ‘Everybody who encounters him is going to assume he’s a girl from his name, if he goes by Gail.’
Some were less brutal, and offered ideas for a compromise, such as changing Gail to Gale.
The mother-to-be reasoned: ‘I would be only using the short form, and his classmates would never have to know the full name because that’s something you can discuss with the principals and teachers to not share.
‘Gail really is a unisex name, but I see the spelling Gale is more masculine and would have no problem changing it to Gale.’