Furious mum explains why grandparents and loved ones don’t have the ‘right’ to hug her baby daughter without getting the one-year-old’s consent
- An Australian mum has revealed how she has been teaching baby about consent
- She says her daughter, 2, doesn’t have to hug or kiss anyone she doesn’t want to
- She is furious that older members of her family don’t appreciate consent
An Australian mum has taken to TikTok to slam adults for denying toddlers their right to consent by forcing or ‘guilt tripping’ cuddles out of them.
Brittany Baxter took to the video platform to start the discussion, explaining she has been teaching her ‘almost two-year-old daughter’ about consent since the day she was born.
The furious mum said she finds it unhelpful when adults decide her daughter saying no to a kiss or cuddle is invalid, and try to force one from her anyway.
An Australian mum has taken to TikTok to slam adults for denying toddlers their right to consent by forcing or ‘guilt tripping’ cuddles out of them
‘My daughter and her body do not exist to make anyone feel more comfortable and to make anybody feel more loved,’ she said.
The mum said some people are dumbfounded when she explains to them that they must ask the little girl for a kiss or a hug.
‘When she says no they are like ‘oh, she doesn’t love me, my feelings are so hurt’ and then they proceed to overstep her body boundaries anyway,’ she complained.
She went on to explain it isn’t her daughter’s fault, or her fault as a mother, that the older generation don’t know how to regulate their emotions when someone tells them no.
‘No ones feelings are ever going to be more important than my daughter’s right to her own body,’ the mum said.
And she refuses to let the little girl grow up not knowing how to say no and not knowing what it looks like for her no to be respected.
She finished the video pleading with ‘grandparents’ to do better.
And many mums applauded her efforts and shared their own storied of trying to teach their young children consent.
‘I am working on this with my two-year-old son as well. We have had to reduce his interactions with my mother due to her not respecting this,’ she said.
‘My mum always taught us we only had to say hello to be polite, we didn’t have to shake hands or hug anyone if we didn’t want to,’ another woman said.
Brittany Baxter took to the video platform to start the discussion, explaining she has been teaching her ‘almost two-year-old daughter’ about consent since the day she was born
Others asked if prompting their kids to think about giving someone a hug was okay.
‘Do you think saying do you want to give granddad a hug goodbye is okay? I don’t force my kids but I do ask them that,’ one woman asked.
But Brittany said she thinks asking is awesome.
‘It gives your child the option to make the choice, and if they say no then just normalise it,’ she said.
But not everyone was impressed with her video and asked why she was so angry.
‘I encourage my 21-month-old to bond with my parents, physically and emotionally, and she is so connected to them. I really don’t get your anger,’ she said.
However she hit back at these critics asking them whether they make their children hug and kiss the adults in their lives for their kids or for their own emotional shortcomings.
‘Have you actually asked your child if that’s what they want and if that’s what they need, or are you encouraging and fostering that relationship because it meets your needs?’ she asked.
Others were disgusted by the mum making her fight public.
‘Happy to say that my daughter or daughter in law would talk to me directly about this and not blast it all over social media,’ one woman said.
Others rushed to her defence – explaining children are more likely to be abused by people they know.
‘Everyone commenting that you don’t agree and you coerce your kids, it is literal facts that they are more likely to be abused by people they know,’ one woman said.
Brittany also revealed her daughter has an amazing relationship with her mother, father and step mother – who do work with her on consent ’98percent’ of the time.
Consent is a trending topic at the moment as a fourth wave of feminism swells around the world.
How does Brittany build consent rules into her life?
Brittany says she has been teaching her daughter about consent her whole life.
She says no one has the right to hug or kiss her daughter without asking.
Loved ones have been told this rule and that they must asked for a hug or kiss.
If they are told no, then they must not force the issue, act sad or complain out loud that the child doesn’t love them.
Her and her husband also abide by these rules.
If people forget or don’t pay attention to the rules she reminds them and says standing firm is key.
She also explained taking time away from people who don’t abide by the rules can help.