A mother-of-three has penned an honest open letter to her husband about her changing body after childbirth, explaining ‘this isn’t the body you fell in love with’.
Laura Mazza, 33, from Melbourne, said while she used to be toned and ‘had muscles’, now her body is filled with ‘stretchmarks on my belly and boobs’ and a ‘gut from muscle separation’.
‘The body he [my husband] fell in love with fit into tight jeans, could walk into a shop and grab any size and walk out, knowing it fit,’ Laura wrote on Facebook on Monday.
A mother-of-three has penned an honest open letter to her husband about her changing body after childbirth, explaining ‘this isn’t the body you fell in love with’ (pictured: Laura’s body)
Laura (pictured with her husband) said that where she used to have muscles and tone, now she has a gut and stretchmarks after giving birth
‘The body now couldn’t shop at those stores, and mostly wears leggings. His body stayed the same, but mine changed in every way. It isn’t fair…’
Laura said she was scared to talk to her husband about the fact that she looked different, but when she did, she was met with a refreshing response.
‘He said to me: “You’re right. It isn’t the body I fell in love with. Instead, it’s a body that grew our children, it fed our children, it comforted our children, it made life.
‘”Your body is the one I fall in love with every day. I didn’t know what love was until I saw this body and found out all it could do, so thank you.”‘
‘The body now couldn’t shop at those stores, and mostly wears leggings. His body stayed the same, but mine changed in every way. It isn’t fair…,’ Laura (pictured) wrote online
Laura said his words made her realise she doesn’t need to be ‘ashamed’ of what her ‘mum body looks like’.
‘There’s plenty of time to give up cake in the future, but for now, enjoy the moments you have, and enjoy the fact that you have made something that is worth every stretch mark and every dimple,’ she said.
‘If you needed a reminder, this is it, this body you have now, it’s worth every bit of love and more.’
Laura has previously been honest about how her body has changed over the years (pictured before and after childbirth), and how she went from ‘wafer thin’ to ‘thicker’
This isn’t the first time Laura has been realistic about how much her body has changed since giving birth.
Previously, she has shared photos online of her body before and after children, encouraging women to love their bodies, whatever their size.
‘The before photo, I was wafer thin, never ate, always dieted,’ she wrote beside one comparison picture of her body.
‘The after had kids, enjoyed life, enjoyed foods. I was thicker. But it was a victory I was proud of.’
The 33-year-old said she has always been told that ‘mums bounce back’ and she should try to lose her baby weight.
‘We teach kids that bodies are for growing big and strong. So it’s crazy that somewhere along the way we are taught to forget the purpose of our bodies and only appreciate them visually,’ she said.
‘This is why women hurt when they still see a bump after leaving hospital. Hurt to see fiery marks when they’ve applied cream. Hate for what love created.’
She added: ‘A flat unscathed tummy is just not reality for some. You can lose weight, but sometimes a baby will just change your body, full stop. And that’s not just okay, it’s awesome.’
‘We teach kids that bodies are for growing big and strong. So it’s crazy that somewhere along the way we are taught to forget the purpose of our bodies,’ Laura (pictured pregnant) said
Laura’s words on both occasions resonated with her followers, thousands of whom shared their own tales and body woes.
‘I wish I believed these words enough to enjoy it,’ one commenter wrote.
‘He didn’t want you solely for your body you had before children, so he wouldn’t deter your body now, he fell in love with all of you… regardless of your shape!,’ another added.