A mother who refused to let her stepdaughter move in while she looks for work has been branded a ‘wicked stepmother’.
Mumsnet user APCYH17 asked other parents if it was unreasonable to refuse her partner’s child accommodation because she doesn’t get on with her.
The stepdaughter is 23-years-old and is looking for work, and wants to move to the city they live in to have access to more job opportunities.
The stepmother said her refusal to let her move in had caused problems in her marriage and now wonders if she would be better off alone.
Other parents on the forum were shocked and describing the original poster as a ‘horrible person’.
A Mumsnet user says she is refusing to let her stepdaughter move in with her and her husband because they don’t get along
Taking to the forum on Monday, the mother said she ‘cares’ for her stepdaughter but doesn’t want her to move in because she may end up staying for longer than three months.
She revealed that their two bedroom flat was bought with her own inheritance money, and argued that she should choose who gets to live with them.
Taking to the forum she wrote: ‘I gave her a splendid NO for the first time in my life. My husband was furious at me and he also got a nasty email from his ex wife accusing us not to help, and later I got a text from her saying that I don’t treat her as a part of family.’
APCYH17 revealed that her refusal is now causing problems in their marriage as her husband doesn’t believe that she loves his daughter.
The user asked other parents if she was being unreasonable because her refusal has caused problems in her marriage
She said: ‘If I am forced to let these bad emotions happen under my roof again and again, one day after another, and no common ground can be reached, then God forgive me I would rather be alone and be happy.’
The other parents on the forum were shocked by the mother’s admission and accused her of being cruel to her stepdaughter.
TieGrr commented: ‘Am starting to understand the wicked stepmother trope.’
‘You sound like a horrible person. How would you feel if your son was in your step daughters position in the future?’ Lookatyourwatchnow said.
Most of the parents on the thread were shocked with her decision and said she was a ‘wicked stepmother’
Oldbutstillgotit posted: ‘No wonder some people think us Step Mums are evil!’
‘I hope this isn’t real,’ Battleax wrote.
Other parents were more sympathetic, saying her stepdaughter was too old to be relying on her parents.
Whoareyoukidding commented: ‘Why should the OP have her adult step-daughter to live with her and her husband? I would also not be keen that it was all planned behind the OP’s back. And what happens if 3 months turns into 6 months? Or longer?’
Other parents were more sympathetic and said the stepdaughter should not need help at 23 years old
ArcheryAnnie posted: ‘I’m a bit surprised at some of the responses here. the daughter is 23, has never lived with them, and is an adult. If an adult – even one you love very much – asks to come and live with you in your “small city flat” for an extended period, it’s reasonable to ask what happens when that extended period comes to an end.’
Fontella said: ‘What’s with all the ‘wicked stepmother’ replies on here? If I was the OP there’s no way I’d have the 23 year old stepdaughter living with me either, especially one who is a proven liar, has the capability to cause an atmosphere, particularly with smaller children around.’
‘If she was a teenager or younger I’d understand but she’s an adult who you’ve helped financially many of times,’ Olivetappas agreed.