Paulina Porizkova opens up about dating in her 50s, saying all the good guys are ‘taken’

Paulina Porizkova has opened up about why dating in her 50s has been a ‘disaster,’ saying all the good guys are ‘taken’ and the rest are the ‘ones that nobody else wants.’

The supermodel, who was most recently linked to screenwriter-director Aaron Sorkin, dished about meeting men, her refusal to get plastic surgery to look younger, and why she shares her crying selfies on social media during her appearance on the Manopod podcast hosted by Larry Pollack and Mike Essrig.  

‘Dating is a freaking disaster. It’s not a place you actually want to be in your 50s,’ Porizkova, 56, said. ‘You don’t want to be in my spot. It is not a good spot to be. Dating is an adventure that I would rather be without, but I do because I want to find somebody. I’m a goose. I like company.’

  

Candid: Paulina Porizkova, 56, dished about the struggle to meet men at her age during her appearance on the Manopod podcast, hosted by Larry Pollack and Mike Essrig

Keeping it real: The supermodel said 'dating is a freaking disaster' in your 50s, insisting: 'You don't want to be in my spot'

Keeping it real: The supermodel said 'dating is a freaking disaster' in your 50s, insisting: 'You don't want to be in my spot'

Keeping it real: The supermodel said ‘dating is a freaking disaster’ in your 50s, insisting: ‘You don’t want to be in my spot’

Hard: 'You [good] guys are taken,' she told the hosts Mike Essrig (left) and Larry Pollack (right), who are both married. 'So what remains are all the ones that nobody else wants.'

Hard: ‘You [good] guys are taken,’ she told the hosts Mike Essrig (left) and Larry Pollack (right), who are both married. ‘So what remains are all the ones that nobody else wants.’

Porizkova and her late husband Ric Ocasek were separated and in the process of divorcing when he passed away unexpectedly in September 2019.  

‘I loved having been married,’ she said. ‘I loved my husband for a long time. We were together for 33 years as a married couple, 35 as living together, so that’s my comfort zone, to share.’

She explained that people who are married or in a long-term relationship know how to share and put their partners first because they ‘get used to this sort of give and take.’ It’s a trait she doesn’t want to lose. 

‘My friends that have been single for a long time, they don’t share so good, and I don’t really want to get so used to being by myself that I am no longer capable of sharing,’ she said. ‘So, hence, dating.’

The Sports Illustrated Swimsuit alum noted that a lot of men who are in their 50s and 60s and have been through a divorce are having a ‘mid-life crisis’ and ‘all go for young women.’ 

Porizkova insisted she doesn’t have a leg up on the competition as a supermodel, saying: ‘I am as invisible to, I’d say, 70 percent of the men as any [other] woman who is 56.’ 

Memories: Porizkova said she only puts up with dating because she wants to meet someone, noting that she and her late husband Ric Ocaksek (pictured in 1990) were married for 33 years

Memories: Porizkova said she only puts up with dating because she wants to meet someone, noting that she and her late husband Ric Ocaksek (pictured in 1990) were married for 33 years 

Loss: Paulina said by the time she turned 50, she was 'invisible' to her husband. She and The Cars frontman were separated and in the process of divorcing when he passed away in 2019

Loss: Paulina said by the time she turned 50, she was ‘invisible’ to her husband. She and The Cars frontman were separated and in the process of divorcing when he passed away in 2019

She said guys who consider her to be an ‘age appropriate’ partner tend to be five to 10 years older than her, and those who are a few years younger are quick to point that out.   

‘You [good] guys are taken,’ she told the hosts, who are both married. ‘So what remains are all the ones that nobody else wants.’

When asked what she is attracted to in a man, she admitted that she has always been drawn to ‘talent.’     

‘It’s just something that I find sexy,’ she explained. ‘No, looks are not super important, but, obviously, if you are talented, then you tend to be sort of fun and smart at the same time. 

‘But, you know, what I’m looking for is a man that’s emotionally available and that is really difficult to find in my age group,’ she added. 

Porizkova’s first public relationship following the death of her estranged husband was with Sorkin, 60, whom she attended the Oscars with last spring. The outing was later revealed to be their second date. 

She announced their split on Instagram in July after roughly three months together. In the caption, she gushed about how wonderful the Oscar-winning screenwriter is, calling him ‘witty’ and ‘sexy.’ She never explicitly revealed why their relationship came to an end, but she alluded to them being too different. 

Split: Porizkova's first public relationship following the death of her estranged husband was with Aaron Sorkin, 60. She announced on Instagram in July that they had called it quits

Split: Porizkova’s first public relationship following the death of her estranged husband was with Aaron Sorkin, 60. She announced on Instagram in July that they had called it quits 

For real? Porizkova, who rejoined Hinge after her breakup with Sorkin, admitted that she didn't have a single man contact her in the first six days she was back on the dating app

For real? Porizkova, who rejoined Hinge after her breakup with Sorkin, admitted that she didn’t have a single man contact her in the first six days she was back on the dating app 

Porizkova rejoined Hinge after the split but revealed she was ‘booted off’ the dating app because other users assumed her account was a fake. She admitted that she didn’t have much luck dating after her account was reinstated. 

‘I got on Hinge and I waited and for six days I didn’t have a single man contact me. Like really? What’s going on here?’ she said, recalling how she tried switching some photos in her profile. ‘And then they sort of started trickling in.’

Porizkova also discussed feeling ‘invisible’ in both her marriage and in society when she was in her late 40s, early 50s.  

‘When I turned 50, it was probably my most miserable birthday ever, because this was when I was realizing that I was basically taking the position of a coffee table in my marriage,’ she recalled. ‘You know, it’s something that you bump into late at night and sort of walk around or put things on it for the rest of the time. 

‘I was utterly invisible to my husband. And as I was being invisible to my husband, I was becoming invisible to just society at large. Not a great place to be.’

Pollack and Essrig pointed out that many women in that situation would seek out plastic surgery and cosmetic procedures to try and turn back the clock, but Porizkova wasn’t interested in that.  

‘Yeah, I could have gone to a plastic surgeon and gone, “Can you fix this? Can you make me look 39 again?” shared the model, who has never had any Botox or fillers. 

Hard to imagine: Despite being a famous model, she insisted that she is 'invisible' to most men and society as a whole because of her age

Hard to imagine: Despite being a famous model, she insisted that she is ‘invisible’ to most men and society as a whole because of her age 

Social media star: Porizkova (pictured in her hotel in Rome, Italy, over the summer) is known for baring both her body and her soul on Instagram

Social media star: Porizkova (pictured in her hotel in Rome, Italy, over the summer) is known for baring both her body and her soul on Instagram 

‘But my acquired wisdom said, “No, no, no. If people don’t like you the way you are, then why would you want to hang out with them? Why would you even want to listen to them?”‘

Porizkova, who has more than 569,000 Instagram followers, said she joined social media right around the time she and Ocasek were separating.    

‘I was going to be a divorced woman at some point with zero career and not all that many prospects,’ she explained. ‘I didn’t go to college. I didn’t go to high school, and so [I was] sort of unemployable as anything but what I was known for, which was the way I look.’

At a time when she felt like she was becoming invisible to the world, she ‘realized that social media was a good place to be seen.’ 

Over the years, she became known for sharing crying selfies and emotionally raw posts while struggling with depression, anxiety, and anger following the death of her husband.

The Cars frontman, with whom she has two sons, cut her out of his will and left her without any money, including her own earnings. 

No shame: The model has become known for sharing crying selfies and emotionally raw posts while struggling with depression, anxiety, and anger following Ocasek's death

No shame: The model has become known for sharing crying selfies and emotionally raw posts while struggling with depression, anxiety, and anger following Ocasek’s death

Process: 'I just sort of hammer you with a picture, get your attention, and then hope you will read my text, which doesn't always happen,' she said of her Instagram posts

Process: ‘I just sort of hammer you with a picture, get your attention, and then hope you will read my text, which doesn’t always happen,’ she said of her Instagram posts 

‘It’s not like I could go on there and talk makeup or dress up and look happy because I was going through the hardest time in my life,’ she said of being on social media after Ocasek’s death.  

‘Because I was so full of emotions and sadness and anger and all of this other stuff that was going on, that’s what I shared. I decided to share my emotions because, really, I couldn’t do anything else. It’s not that I wouldn’t have wanted to if I could, I just couldn’t. It wasn’t me. It wouldn’t have been the real me. 

‘And, interestingly, I guess it sort of hit a nerve with other women…and then it sort of just took off on its own,’ she added. ‘I don’t even know what happened.’

Porizkova admitted that when she first joined Instagram, she had no idea how to use filters or editing apps to make herself look better. 

‘So I just gave me. And it turns out that not many people do that. Not that many people are authentically themselves,’ she said. ‘And so the people that were looking for someone like themselves authentically, found me. And, obviously, I am incredibly honored and pleased that they did.’

The cover star has a penchant for sharing sultry bikini shots and nude photos with poignant captions about being a woman and aging, and she identifies more with writing than modeling at this point.  

‘I think of myself now, primarily, as a writer,’ said Porizkova, who has written a novel, a children’s book, and a number of articles over the years. ‘Because three modeling jobs a year doesn’t quite a model make, quite honestly, so, yeah, what I do is write. 

‘And when you are a writer and you can have sort of an immediate readership, you know, that’s very appealing. So I just sort of hammer you with a picture, get your attention, and then hope you will read my text, which doesn’t always happen.’

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