Podcaster causes debate after telling women to avoid birth control pills while looking for a partner

A life coach and podcast host has caused a stir after claiming the contraceptive pill changes which men women are attracted to. 

Elisha Covey, from Dallas, Texas, shared a snippet of her popular podcast in video to TikTok saying the men she dated while she was on the pill versus off the pill were ‘like night and day’.

The businesswoman and self-made millionaire recommended women stay off the pill while they’re dating to look for a ‘life partner’ in the clip that drew in more than 15.1million views and sparked a huge debate.  

‘Maybe trying to meet a life partner when you’re drugged is not a good idea,’ she said.

Speaking with co-host Dr Alex Spinoso, Elisha explained being on the birth control pill is like tricking your body into thinking it is pregnant. 

‘I said that on a podcast and people flipped out and it got like 4million views,’ she said.

Elisha shared a snippet of her popular podcast in video to TikTok saying the men she dated while she was on the pill versus off the pill was ‘like night and day’

‘I think that if you’re on the pill obviously not pregnant you’re attracted to different men than you would be if you were off the pill.’ 

Elisha said she met her first husband while she was on the pill. 

After she had children and her first marriage broke down, she was off the pill and met her current partner Charles who she said is completely different. 

‘It’s absolutely true because it changes, not only your internal hormones but your neurotransmitters, hormones like oxytocin, the love drug that everybody talks about,’ Dr Alex added. 

‘It changes all those different patterns in your body when you’re on that versus when you’re off of it.’

A 2014 study published in Proceedings of the National Academy of Science found hormonal contraception ‘may have critical unintended effects on women’s relationships’

Many women in the comments agreed with Elisha’s take saying their attraction to their partner changed when they went on or off the contraceptive pill. 

‘This helps me understand why me and my ex husband started falling apart just after our wedding when I stopped using the pill,’ one viewer said. 

‘When I was on the pill: only dating men. When I stopped the pill: Started dating women,’ laughed another.   

However not everyone was convinced with one commenting: ‘That’s not true for everyone. I met and married my hubby on birth control. I’m off now and I’m still attracted and happily married’. 

‘But if the two relationship were 10 years apart wouldn’t it mean that you just changed and realised what you actually want in a relationship?’ a second asked. 

A 2014 study published in Proceedings of the National Academy of Science found hormonal contraception ‘may have critical unintended effects on women’s relationships’.

It followed 118 heterosexual couples who met while the woman was on birth control and found she was less attracted to her partner when she went off the pill. 

However, the findings show a woman’s attraction to her partner depended on how conventionally good looking he was. 

When they went off birth control, women were more likely to still be attracted to their partner if they ‘had a relatively more attractive face’ than if they weren’t conventionally handsome by ‘evolutionary standards’.

Florida State graduate student who is the lead author on the study, Michelle Russell, told TIME if your husband is not conventionally attractive and you go off the pill, his attractiveness might bother you more than before.

‘Women who choose a partner when they’re on hormonal contraceptives and then stop taking them will prioritise their husband’s attractiveness more than they would if they were still on it,’ she said.  

She said the change could be because of fluctuating estrogen levels or many hormonal reasons and added the research should not dissuade women from taking contraceptives as it is only the results of one finding. 

‘Any drug that you take, people want to be informed consumers. This is just one factor women might want to consider when deciding whether or not to use them,’ she said.