Polyamorous couple plan to ‘marry’ long-term girlfriend

A polyamorous couple who have two children together plan to ‘marry’ the long-term girlfriend who shares their bed.

Matthew and Michelle Catano, from Huntington Beach, California, met Courtney on a dating website seven years after they married, and decided to ask her to be their girlfriend.

Courtney, 27, moved into their family home shortly after they met, with the trio now planning to commit to each other in a ceremony – despite three-way marriages not being legally recognised.

The couple’s girlfriend, who has already changed her last name to Catano, hopes to legally adopt the couple’s children, Dario, eight, and Anthony, three, who already call her ‘mommy’.

Matthew, 32, insists that he loves both women equally, and says that they are not in an open relationship as many people believe.

Matthew and Michelle Catano (left), from Huntington Beach, California, plan to marry long-term girlfriend Courtney (right) 

The polyamorous couple, who share sons Dario, eight, and Anthony, three, (pictured together) met Courtney (far right) on a dating website 

The polyamorous couple, who share sons Dario, eight, and Anthony, three, (pictured together) met Courtney (far right) on a dating website 

Mortgage adviser Michelle, 31, said: ‘When Matthew and I first met, we had absolutely no idea that either one of us would be open to a polyamorous relationship.

‘We never considered adding someone to the mix until we were married. Our relationship has always been incredibly strong, but we thought that by adding someone else in to the mix it would be a fun new element.

‘I was searching on a dating website and came across Courtney’s profile, and Matthew and I couldn’t believe how attractive she was.

‘We got talking and we soon met up, and we both fell in love with her straight away.’ 

Courtney moved into the couple's home shortly after they met, with the trio all sharing the same bed

Courtney moved into the couple’s home shortly after they met, with the trio all sharing the same bed

She now plans to legally adopt Matthew and Michelle's sons (pictured together), who already call her 'mommy' 

She now plans to legally adopt Matthew and Michelle’s sons (pictured together), who already call her ‘mommy’ 

Courtney moved into Matthew and Michelle’s home seven months after they met oin 2015, and the trio’s relationship has gone from strength to strength ever since.

Courtney even quit her job to become a full-time mom to Dario and Anthony – with both referring to her as ‘mommy’ as well.

Despite the unique situation, the trio claim that they all live harmoniously together, and that their children are happy and aware of the situation.

Courtney said: ‘It wasn’t weird joining Matthew and Michelle’s marriage, and I felt completely at ease with both of them straight away.

Matthew (pictured with wife Michelle) insists that he loves Michelle and Courtney equally 

Matthew (pictured with wife Michelle) insists that he loves Michelle and Courtney equally 

The trio now plan to commit to each other in a ceremony in front of friends and family, despite three-way marriages not being legally recognised 

The trio now plan to commit to each other in a ceremony in front of friends and family, despite three-way marriages not being legally recognised 

Matthew, Michelle and Courtney insist that there is no jealousy in their relationship at all 

Matthew, Michelle and Courtney insist that there is no jealousy in their relationship at all 

‘There’s absolutely no jealousy whatsoever between us all, and we make sure to spend our one on one time together as well as individually.

‘We’ll explain to the children fully when they’re older why they have two moms, but for now they just think they’re the luckiest kids in the world to have three parents!’

Next year the trio claim that they plan to ‘marry’ one another in a commitment ceremony with friends, family, and other polyamorous couples in attendance.

Courtney also plans on officially adopting the two boys as a co-parent, so the boys can officially have two mothers.

Courtney (pictured) said they ensure to spend one-on-one time with each other, as well as spending time all together 

Courtney (pictured) said they ensure to spend one-on-one time with each other, as well as spending time all together 

The trio say that both Dario, eight, and Anthony, three, are aware that they have two moms 

The trio say that both Dario, eight, and Anthony, three, are aware that they have two moms 

In fact, Courtney (centre) has given up her job so she can be a full-time mother to the children 

In fact, Courtney (centre) has given up her job so she can be a full-time mother to the children 

What are the rules on marriage and adoption for three-way couples?

Multiple partner relationships are not currently legal in most western countries. 

However, a court case in the Netherlands recently permitted the legal cohabitation of three partners.

When it comes to adoption, laws in some US states – including California and Maine – allow a child to officially have three parents.

A number of courts in other states across the US have also recognised a third parent in recent years.

Matthew, who works in the mortgage industry, said: ‘Even though people are quite skeptical of polyamorous relationships, they run a lot more smoothly than others would think.

‘People always assume we’re in an open relationship so we sleep with anyone and everyone, but that’s truly just not the case.

‘We’ve made friends with a few like-minded polyamorous couples as well, as they can understand our relationship completely – we even go on triple dates!

‘Even though a polyamorous relationship wouldn’t work for everyone, it certainly works for us.’  

Matthew and Michelle said neither of them thought the other would be open to a polyamorous relationship when they first met

Matthew and Michelle said neither of them thought the other would be open to a polyamorous relationship when they first met

However, that changed seven years after they got married, when they met Courtney (centre)

However, that changed seven years after they got married, when they met Courtney (centre)

The couple say that they both fell in love with Courtney immediately after they met her 

The couple say that they both fell in love with Courtney immediately after they met her 



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