Reddit: Husband puts lock on bedroom door for daily for two hours of ‘quiet time’

Husband enforces ‘strict’ house rule by putting a lock on the bedroom door daily for two hours of ‘quiet time’: ‘This is outrageous’

  • Husband put a lock on bedroom door to have ‘quiet time’ 
  • Fed-up wife couldn’t alert him to family emergency because he was sleeping 

A fed-up wife and mum-of-two has expressed her anger after her husband attached a lock to the bedroom door for two hours of ‘quiet time’.

The wife claims her husband comes home from work at 5pm to nap, then plays games for hours and is constantly sleep deprived as a result. 

On Reddit she detailed the situation and wrote: ‘He values his sleep and has one rule in the house that he enforces strictly, which is to not be interrupted while sleeping. 

‘He literally put a sign on the bedroom door saying “DO.NOT.WAKE.ME.UP” under any circumstances, just no, unless someone’s hurt or dead though; in this case, he said he still wouldn’t be of much help anyway.

‘The kids and I would sometimes wake him up but for serious reasons. He got mad and started locking the door. I get no access to the room for two hours but that’s not the main problem.’ 

Last Tuesday disaster struck when their three-year-old son spilt hot oil on his arm while their 14-year-old daughter was cooking dinner – and the wife couldn’t wake up her husband in the emergency. 

An angry wife claims her husband has started putting a lock on the bedroom door after work for two hours of ‘quiet time’ (stock image) 

‘I heard him scream and saw that the oil was covering his hand and half of his arm, I brought the first aid kit but he was in so much pain and his skin looked really bad,’ the wife wrote. 


Would you let your partner lock themselves away for 2 hours a day?

  • No way 13 votes
  • Yes, only if I can do the same! 2 votes

‘I rushed to wake my husband up, I kept knocking but got no response so I tried to open it but it was locked. I spent a while between knocking on the door (he had his phone turned off).’ 

Instead she had to ask the neighbours for assistance who drove them to the hospital. 

‘I couldn’t help feel livid the whole time,’ she said. 

After arriving back home, the couple had a huge argument over the bedroom door lock. 

‘I blew up on him after I showed him our son’s injury and told him that I pounded on the door to wake him up but he said had his earbuds on and didn’t hear a thing. I called him reckless and neglectful for ignoring a family emergency,’ she said. 

‘He said I could say the same thing about myself for leaving our son unsupervised and causing him to get a burn. I stopped arguing and went to remove the bedroom door lock, he started yelling at me saying I had no right. I refused to respond I just walked off to calm down. 

‘He didn’t stop complaining, calling me bossy and saying that by removing the lock I’ve destroyed his peace and quiet and caused him sleep deprivation. He’s insisting I put it back but I refused.’  

The new rule means the wife is forced to look after their two kids alone (stock image)

The new rule means the wife is forced to look after their two kids alone (stock image)

The woman then asked ‘am I the a**hole’ for removing the bedroom lock after my husband ignored a family emergency?’  

Thousands supported the wife and assured her she isn’t in the wrong, while others suggested her husband might have a gaming ‘problem’. 

‘WTF did I just read? Your husband takes an early evening nap so he can stay up late to play video games? Do your kids have any relationship with him because it sounds like he never sees them awake,’ one person wrote. 

Another said: ‘Hot oil = ACCIDENT. Locking the door = very purposely being unavailable to help and checking out of his responsibilities as husband and father.’ 

A third said the husband deliberately ignored her in the time of need. 

‘Accidents happen, no matter how much you stay alert. But I don’t believe your husband didn’t hear you calling, he chose to ignore you,’ the person wrote.

‘Your husband is being selfish and irresponsible. He is an adult with children and doesn’t have a right to stay up all night playing games and sleep all day while you raise the kids alone,’ another said.