Ever wondered why he never called you back despite the date going well?
It’s a conundrum single women face on the dating scene.
But it could be something you did or said that unknowingly sabotage what could have been a fun fling or a serious commitment.
Speaking to Daily Mail Australia, relationship expert Eugenie Pepper revealed the little known mistakes women are making that’s ruining their chances of dating.
Ever wondered why he never called you back despite the date going well? It’s a conundrum single women face on the dating scene (stock image)
Relationship expert Eugenie Pepper revealed the little known mistakes women are making that’s ruining their chances of dating
Ms Pepper – who specialises in helping people heal after a break-up – revealed the number one mistake women make is they get too carried away with making a good impression.
‘When they meet a man that they are attracted to, they are too focused on make a good impression that they forget to to evaluate their date,’ she said.
‘They don’t get to see if they are good enough for them, because of this, they miss many of the crucial warning signs.’
If things are going pretty well with the man you’re currently dating but there are things you’d like to change about him to improve the relationship, don’t bother.
‘The biggest mistake women make is trying to change someone or hoping things will improve. In my experience dealing with many clients, people don’t change,’ she said.
‘When things are not right in the beginning they usually only get worse. Only accept dates with men who treat you with respect and courtesy.’
Eugenie said another common mistake people are making is wasting time on someone who’s obviously not right for them.
‘Unfortunately, when you first meet someone it can be hard to spot the signs because on the initial date people are on their best behaviour, they act charming and nice even if they are not,’ she said.
‘It may take a while before they show their true colours. It’s important to be on high alert for any unusual behaviour early on.’
Ms Pepper revealed the number one mistake women make is they get too carried away with making a good impression (stock image)
But there are red flags to look out for early on in the dating process.
‘If they behave badly in the early days this a red sign – do not ignore it, as it is a warning of things to come,’ she said.
‘On those early dates, pay attention to how they treat people, how they talk about people and the family they are close to.
‘Trust your intuition, if something makes you feel uncomfortable or does not feel right. However sometimes women ignore the signs.’
If you’re newly single or have been struggling to find a date, Eugenie said it was important to work on your ‘personal confidence and positivity’.
‘Having confidence and self-worth makes you attractive to a potential partner. Believe in yourself. See yourself as the prize,’ she explained.
And while most of us would rather forget about our last horrible date, Eugenie said it could be a good thing to reflect back as a learning curve.
‘There are a lot of ups and downs that comes with dating, so get comfortable with uncertainty when dating,’ she said.
‘When things don’t work out, have the belief that good things will come to you in time. See all your bad dating incidents as learning experiences.’
It’s important to practise self love to overcome low self-esteem before you hit the dating scene
She also said it was important to practise self love to overcome any low self-esteem before you hit the dating scene.
‘Do positive affirmation daily to reinforce that you are worthy of having a loving and fulfilling relationship. For example “I am worthy of a loving and fulfilling relationship”,’ she said.
‘Enjoy the time spent on your own. Having the belief that you do not need anyone in your life to make you happy and secure. Being self-reliant and independent is very attractive quality.
‘Focus on yourself and self-care. Do things that will make you feel your best: exercise daily and meditate. Meditation and exercise had proven transforms you into a calmer and well-balanced person. It changes your attitude to be more positive and happy. These qualities are what people find attractive in other.
‘Take time for yourself to clear your mind and set your intention for what you want in a relationship and partner. Be very clear about what you want out and write a list of 30 qualities that you want in a potential partner.’