To Heal Fast, Open Yourself to the Therapist
Humans are vulnerable and they want to show up their best selves. It is human physiology that they are more concerned about what the next person will think. Our society is made in such a way that we all have this peer pressure of being the best, without any flaws. Therapy is something which is for mind cleaning and if you have negative thoughts which you are ashamed of, the therapy is of no need. There are many reasons people lie about certain matters. Most of them only lie because they have built a very nice image of them in front of the therapist and they do not want to lose that.
We are humans it is very common that we lie about things due to insecurity, fear, low self-esteem and so on. Sometimes our lie can be a huge reason for our depression and to hide one, we have to face the big series of lies. Not everyone will lie while sitting on the couch of therapist’s office, some are very comfortable with the therapist that they spill all the beans one by one. It also depends on the therapist. if he is non-judgemental and frank, the clients won’t hesitate to share their problems.
The main reasons for people lying to therapist are given below. Scroll down and know each of them.
● Hiding Embarrassing Thing
It is very easy to share anything which is funny or some of the best experiences of life, like the first time you met your lover, amazing school life, or story of building a new business. But when comes to bad experiences or the things which decrease our confidence, we neglect to talk about it. It happens with everyone because everyone wants to be a superhero in their story.
● They Forget To Specify Details
It is the responsibility of a therapist to ask each and everything about the patient suffering from depression. Sometimes unknowingly patient would not specify certain things like when they began dating, year of passing the college and many small details which either they have forgotten or didn’t find it more useful to share. Some details have a great impact on the therapy but the patient takes it very lightly and does not share it. If you are in need, you must hire the best therapist in Toronto.
● My Therapist Will Not Understand Me
We all have this deep-rooted thing in the mind that maybe I am different. What therapist would think about me? We all have fear about judgments as we think no one will understand and love the real us. Same is the case with the therapist, at the beginning therapist is a new person in our life so telling him about the flaws may not be that easy. If you are also dealing with such an issue, you need to understand that the therapists are well-trained to keep the Judgement in their mind. Also, they will never judge you whatever wrong you have done in your life. That’s how the therapy works.
● Fear of Getting Exposed
We have many deep dark secrets which define who we are. Most of the time there are secrets which can harm your image. Like you have cheated on someone or tried to commit suicide, or tried bulling someone or has been bullied all your life. Such experiences seem very painful and
disgusting to share. The more you will open up with your therapist, the more you will be happy by taking the therapy session.
Therapy is All About Sharing the Pain
If you are lying to your therapist, you need to stop now! There would be things getting stuck in your heart or mind for a longer time so that is the reason for which you are taking the healing session? Right! If you will not share your problems and always share your fake self, you are just wasting money by taking the therapy. Again, If you are lying to your therapist, you are being dishonest to yourself. When you will find confidence and share your flaws, you will never feel depressed again!
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