A distraught son who lost his father, mother and brother in just one year has unloaded his raw grief in a heartbreaking message to his dead loved ones.
Andrew Done’s spiral of sadness began in January when his younger brother Alastair, 26, washed up on an Aberdeen beach after taking his own life.
The 29-year-old suffered further loss when his mother Faith, 55, hanged herself five months later to be ‘reunited’ with her son.
Struggling to cope with the loss of her son, mother Faith Done, 55, hanged herself five months later to be ‘reunited’ with him.
And in a cruel twist, Andrew’s father Nick was killed in a horror car crash just last month.
Following his father’s death, the bodybuilder from Staffordshire wrote: ‘Words can’t describe the way I feel right know, my heart is broken my world has been ripped from me.
‘I love you Dad and I really hope there is a heaven where you can be with mum and Alastair.’
Faith Done, 55, (left) hanged herself after she was left heartbroken by the suicide of her son Alastair, 26, (right) who took his own life at a seaside beauty spot, an inquest heard
Nick Done died in a car crash last month, after his son Alastair and wife Faith both committed suicide
The Done family tragedies begun on January 4 this year when Alastair, who had a history of self-harm, took off after buying a one-way rail ticket to the Scottish coast.
The polo yards worker sent his mother a chilling text message saying: ‘I’m gone, no-one contact me’, sparking a major police search.
On January 20, his body was found washed up on Balmedie Beach in Aberdeen after his rucksack was stumbled upon in the sand.
At the time of Alastair’s death, Ms Done, from Cheshire, was recorded saying: ‘He was bright enough to know what he was doing but obviously we are all devastated.
‘Alastair always loved his horses and working with his brother. He also went to Ireland and worked in some fantastic polo yards as well as doing well in the showing world. He didn’t know how loved he was by all his horsey friends.’
The loss of her son saw Ms Done turn to alcohol as grief spiralled her life to a point where she was contemplating suicide.
Nick’s statement given to the police before he died, which was read out at his wife’s Warrington inquest yesterday, detailed Ms Done’s slide into depression.
The farmer’s labourer said: ‘Faith had always drank alcohol but when Alastair died she started drinking a lot more.
Mrs Done, who organised horse shows and trained animals at her stables in Malpas, Cheshire was found dead in her hallway by her husband Nick as he returned home from work
‘Before he passed away she was normally a happy person his death hit us all hard especially Faith.
‘She mentioned on numerous occasions that she was going to hang herself but I never believed she would.
‘She refused all help and stated she didn’t need it and put on a brave face.’
‘The month before she passed away we had a conversation about taking a lot of pills and going to sleep together due to Alastair taking his own life and she said she wanted to be with him.
‘I didn’t see much of her in the week leading up to her death as she was out most nights but when I did she seemed very low and quiet, and she didn’t speak much to me.
He also described the lead-up to Ms Done’s devestating suicide, including the moment he walked through the front door and saw her dead.
Nick added: ‘Prior to leaving the house for work I checked up on Faith and she was in bed with some of her head hanging off it. I tucked her in and made sure she was comfortable. I left the house and returned to the home address at approximately 7.30pm.
Before her death, Faith Done (pictured) told her husband Nick they should take an overdose of pills together to be ‘reunited’ with Alastair
‘I hadn’t heard from Faith all day but that was quite normal for us. Then I walked in through the front door and then that’s when I saw Faith had passed away.’
In a statement mental health nurse Christina Bromfield, said: ‘Faith was seen in February 17 and whilst she had been consuming alcohol, she didn’t consider this as having a detrimental effect upon her.
‘She denied experiencing problems of mental health although she described how she had lost her son who had taken his own life.
‘She was feeling numb and had not started to come to terms with this – but she denied any plans or intent to harm herself.
‘She was offered a referral to her GP but declined this offer although she did accept support information about bereavement from a suicide support group.’
A report by Mrs Done’s GP, Dr Nick Dixon said: ‘Mrs Done didn’t attend very often and only met her in person on October 2010.
‘I did have contact with her by telephone on May 13, 2019 explained she would like to book an appointment with me as she had not been coping well and drinking alcohol heavily.
‘Mrs Done told me her son had previously committed suicide and she felt she had not been dealing with this well. She kept thinking about her sons funeral and the song played during the service.
‘I offered her an appointment the same afternoon but she advised me she had to muck out the cows as she was keeping busy and several people where relying on her.
Alastair Done (pictured as a child) was a professional horseman. His body was found washed up on Balmedie Beach in Aberdeen on January 20 after his belongings including his rucksack were found in the sand
‘I offered an appointment the following day with someone else but she preferred to see me on May 15.
‘The appointment was booked but Mrs Done cancelled the appointment and sadly I was made aware of her death on May 24, 2019.’
Det Sgt Simon Owen of Cheshire Police said: ‘There were numerous possessions laid on her bed and notes saying clothes for everyone and an envelope on the bed for Andrew and Robert.
‘In the ground floor room were several personal papers laid out on the side, personal effects had been put in order and a card addressed to Nick and Andrew.’
Recording a conclusion of suicide Coroner Heath Westerman, said: ‘Faith Done was a horse show producer and the conclusion in the circumstances is one of suicide. I extend my sincere condolences to her remaining family and friends.’
Last month an inquest opened into the death of Nick, who died instantly when his BMW Mini collided head-on with a Volkswagen Caddy on the A525 Whitchurch Road in Bangor-on-Dee at 5am on October 2.
Another person was seriously injured after both vehicles caught fire on impact.
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