Sophia Cachia has broken down in tears as she detailed the secret battle she was fighting behind closed doors that placed an immense strain on her life following her shock split from her husband, former AFL player Jaryd Cachia.
The 29-year-old mummy blogger, from Melbourne, admitted her glamorous lifestyle isn’t as ‘picture perfect’ as it may seem on her social media feed.
Since separating from the father of her two kids in early September, the mother has been leading a private life with her new partner Alanna Kennedy, a professional soccer player for the Matildas.
‘I had a beautiful man in my life, I still do. He’s an incredible father and an incredible friend to me but why can’t women seek more?’ she said.
‘That married life I realised wasn’t what I wanted. And it wasn’t that I realised “oh I like women now, I’m going to leave my marriage”, it wasn’t that. I realised I wanted more.’
Sophia Cachia has broken down in tears as she detailed the secret battle she was fighting behind closed doors that placed an immense strain on her life following her shock split from her husband, former AFL player Jaryd
The 29-year-old mummy blogger, from Melbourne, has two children with Jaryd – six-year-old son Bobby and three-year-old daughter Florence
Since separating from the father of her two kids in September, the mother has been leading a private life with her new partner Alanna Kennedy (right), a soccer player for the Matildas
Sophie said she met Alanna through work but their relationship started to blossom when they began chatting over the phone and social media.
‘She was overseas for the first five to six months. We didn’t dove straight into a relationship but we definitely connected straight away,’ Sophie explained.
‘In a way, [Alanna] changed my life in the sense that… obviously I dated women and men but she made me realised I can actually see myself in a relationship with a woman long term and I can see myself having a life there.’
Before she tied the knot to Jaryd in April 2016, Sophie said she never dated women.
Growing up, she perceived herself like any other woman who would complete school, graduate from university, get married to a man and start a family.
‘For me, I just want to challenge the norm. I want to find what else is out there, I want to experience life – that’s a big thing for me,’ she said.
‘It’s not always about settling, it’s abandoning what we think we’re told we should be, and that’s what I’ve done, I’ve thrown that out the window.’
She admitted her life isn’t as ‘picture perfect’ as it may seem on her social media feed
After falling in love, Sophie and Jaryd tied the knot in April 2016. Four years later, she announced their shock split but the couple have since maintained an amicable relationship
Following her split from Jaryd after four years of marriage, she started dating women before she confirmed her new romance with Alanna amid the coronavirus pandemic
At 22, Sophie welcomed her son Bobby, now aged six. But after giving birth to her now-three-year-old daughter Florence, she began questioning her life and identity.
Following her split from Jaryd after four years of marriage, she started dating women before she confirmed her new romance with Alanna amid the coronavirus pandemic.
‘Everything and everyone has a place and time. It’s been a long and bumpy road for us to get here, but I’m glad to be in isolation and running out of toilet paper with you,’ Sophie said on Instagram, alongside a picture of her with Alanna.
Despite going public, Sophie – who’s known for posting every aspect of her life on Instagram – kept her relationship with Alanna away from the spotlight.
But she was bombarded with rude remarks from some of her followers who demanded she confirm whether or not she’s a lesbian.
‘I don’t sit here and go “I am a lesbian”. I sit here and say “I have a partner who’s a female”… I haven’t put a banner above it saying “hey! This is my gay girlfriend and me”. I think it’s quite self explanatory really.’
As she and her ex-husband Jaryd share custody of their two kids, Sophie admits she struggles every time her children ask where their ‘daddy’ is
Sophie was just 22 when she gave birth to her first child – son Bobby (left). Three years later, she welcomed her daughter Florence (right)
Just weeks after uploading her first picture with Alanna onto her feed, Sophie shared an emotional post about being ‘defeated, humiliated and broken’ in her ‘private life’.
‘The thing with Alanna was the tip of the iceberg and underneath all of that was the past two years of my life that I had not dealt with,’ Sophie told Mamamia.
‘I think that was me almost crying out for help. Whilst I looked like I had it all together, and I looked like I had separated from my husband and it was fine, it doesn’t mean that any of it has been easy.
‘It doesn’t mean that any of the inner turmoil that I have battled for so long inside my head, whether that’s with my marriage, what I’m going to do with my children’s lives, my sexuality. It doesn’t mean that battling any of that inside my head was easy.’
As she and Jaryd share custody of their two kids, Sophie admits she struggles every time her children ask where ‘daddy’ is or ‘can we do this or that with daddy’.
‘I live with that guilt every day that I’ve let my kids down,’ she said.
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