A ‘sugar baby’ has shared her horrific experience after meeting up with an older, rich man for dinner turned into a nightmare.
Leila, who was 18 at the time she used website Sugar Daddy Meet, was abducted after meeting with an older man who demanded she have sex with him.
‘If you’re not sexually ready to have sex with older men then don’t go on the website because you’re pretty much putting yourself in that situation,’ she told Nine’s 60 Minutes program.
Leila, whose last name is withheld, was on her second ever sugar daddy date when she was abducted by the sugar daddy.
Leila, who was 18 at the time she used website Sugar Daddy Meet was abducted after meeting with an older man who demanded sex from her
The man picked Leila up in his car and told her they would be going on a date to a restaurant near Sydney’s Botanical Gardens when things took a scary turn.
‘We went straight past the restaurant and then I asked what was going on and he locked his doors and he was like “well you’re coming home with me”,’ she said.
After arriving at his home, the sugar daddy immediately demanded Leila have sex with him and even threatened her, saying it’s what he expected given the money he was paying her.
Seeking Arrangement’s creator Brandon Wade, 48, whose 22-year-old sugar baby Zoe lives with him in Las Vegas, believes sugar daddies help young women advance their lives
But Leila was in such a hurry to get away from the man, that when he dropped her at a train station she didn’t ask for any money.
‘Spending his money would make me sick,’ she said.
Leila was so embarrassed she didn’t tell the police or her parents about her frightening ordeal.
‘It was just too confronting and embarrassing for me at that time’.
After complaining to the Sugar Daddy Meet website, it was revealed to 60 Minutes that the man already had nine separate complaints made against him.
Sugar Daddy Meet banned him briefly from the website, but was then let back on with just a warning.
Professor Peter Fleming from the University of Technology of Sydney, who wrote a book about the capitalism of sugar daddies, believes it’s an unhealthy dynamic.
He says the business model of popular sugar baby website Seeking Arrangements exploits women’s financial desperation.
Professor Peter Fleming from the University of Technology of Sydney, who wrote a book about the capitalism of sugar daddies,says the business model of popular sugar baby website Seeking Arrangements exploits women’s financial desperation
‘According to Brandon Wade (Seeking Arrangement creator) love is for poor people, and if you’ve got enough money you can buy it and that this happens anyway’.
Prof Fleming said that according to Wade’s ideology, everything – including intimate relationships and romance – can be reduced to a financial exchange.
‘For all intents and purposes this is sex work in disguise, or undercover sex work,’ Prof Fleming said.
Prof Fleming says sugar daddy websites are simply selling a ‘fantasy’ to young women, but the dark side is an ‘economic dependence’.
Alex (pictured left) is just one of thousands of Australian women to have signed up to the online services (Bob pictured right)
But Seeking Arrangement’s founder Brandon Wade, 48, whose 22-year-old sugar baby Zoe lives with him in Las Vegas, believes sugar daddies help young women advance their lives.
‘This is real, I’m living the life. I can’t help that I’m attracted to young and beautiful women, like most men are,’ he said.
Wade says the monetary relationships can actually empower young women.
‘If you are poor and you are constantly hanging out with the poor people, you’re never going to find opportunities in life,’ he said.
Meanwhile, an unashamed sugar baby revealed why she sleeps with men old enough to be her grandfather and admitted she doesn’t mind if the sex ‘isn’t great’.
Alex, 24, is just one of thousands of Australian women to have signed up to Seeking Arrangement.
Alex told the news progam that even if the sex ‘isn’t great’ she didn’t mind as she ‘got money out of it’
Bob (pictured) said the arrangement to him was simple – he ‘likes sexy women’ and he’s willing to pay for them and has the cash to do
Alex and her sugar-daddy Bob, who is in his sixties, spoke about the benefits of their extraordinary relationship.
‘Even if the sex isn’t great, I’ve got money out of it at the end of the day,’ Alex told the news program.
The young woman openly admits she is after her sugar-daddy’s wealth.
Bob is twice divorced, walks with a wooden cane and is almost three times her age – but Alex insists she was ‘not really’ creeped out by the fact he is old enough to be her grandfather.
|University||New sign-ups in 2018||Total number of college Sugar Babies|
|#1 Monash University||209||589|
|#2 Royal Melbourne Institute of Technology||184||590|
|#3 University of Sydney||170||606|
|#4 University of Melbourne||134||423|
|#5 University of Queensland||128||520|
|#6 University of New South Wales||117||280|
Meanwhile, Bob is more than happy to part with his money in exchange for time with Alex.
‘It’s not a charity. For a woman to find a guy who’s going to be extremely generous, without expecting sex in return, I would have thought is more the exception than the norm,’ he said.
Bob said the arrangement to him was simple – he ‘likes sexy women’ and he’s willing to pay for them and has the cash to do so.
When asked if the ‘sexy women’ he liked also happened to be ‘young’, Bob reluctantly replied: ‘well… yes’.
He denied ever feeling like a ‘creep’.
The exposé comes shortly after it emerged a growing number of female university students were signing up to use Sugar Baby websites.
Monash University in Victoria has been named the fastest growing ‘Sugar Baby’ school in Australia, with 209 new student sign-ups to a popular dating service in the last 12 months.
It now has a total of 589 Sugar Baby students attending tutorials and lectures, with many of them likely using the funds to pay for their education debt.
In second place was the Royal Melbourne Institute of Technology with 184 new ladies joining Seeking Arrangement and a total of 590 Sugar Babies at the uni.
The University of Sydney ranked third with 170, University of Melbourne next with 134 and the final two were the University of Queensland with 128 and the University of New South Wales with 117.