Most people tend to stay in relationships with the hope they’ll eventually be walking down the aisle with their significant other.
But American relationship counsellor David Bennett warns there are a few major red flags you should be watching out for that suggest a white wedding isn’t for you, Popsugar Australia reported.
If you don’t find your partner attractive anymore than it’s definitely time to walk away, but these four situations might also spell disaster.
Most people tend to stay in relationships with the hope they’ll eventually be walking down the aisle with that person
1. Your friends aren’t big fans of them
When you first get together with a new boyfriend or girlfriend the honeymoon period makes it seem as though everyone is just as in love with them as you are.
But as time goes by cracks might appear between the lines and friends could start awkwardly shuffling around the topic of your partner.
It’s not a great way to spend the rest of your life – particularly when your friends and family will be attending gatherings with this person for years to come.
So while the relationship is completely about you and that other person – sometimes you need to factor in everyone else.
2. You’re practically begging them to marry you
It shouldn’t be too hard to convince your significant other to marry you – in fact, you should both be on the same page to make the nuptials work.
In some cases one person is adamant about the wedding going ahead while the other almost feels ‘dragged’ along through the process.
These pairings usually end in disaster and inevitable divorce, because one heart wasn’t in it from the start.
It shouldn’t be too hard to convince your significant other to marry you – in fact, you should both be on the same page to make the nuptials work
3. You have big plans to ‘fix’ your partner
Not being in love with your partner from the outset – and finding small things that frustrate you about them – will only be enhanced as you grow old together.
‘Many people get married expecting it will change their partner. If your partner is a player before marriage, they will be after marriage,’ Mr Bennett said.
‘If your partner is dramatic and text fights with you all day before marriage, they will be the same after marriage.’
Ultimately you can’t just ‘change’ a person by saying ‘I do’ so it might be best to steer clear of the topic entirely – or call it quits.
If you’re going to enjoy the wedding party surrounded by all your closest friends and not the marriage in general, simply don’t do it
4. You’re more excited for the wedding day than the lifetime of love
If you’re going to enjoy the wedding party surrounded by all your closest friends and not the marriage in general, simply don’t do it.
It would be much easier (and cheaper) to simply throw a party than tie the knot in this case.
‘Marriage is about committing to a person, which includes a lot of sacrifices and obligations (including legal ones),’ he said.