Controversial opinion: Men love to be objectified.
Now before you scream with outrage and call the woke police let me explain…
It all became glaringly obvious to me this week. This realisation even forced me to conduct my own personal investigation and I can say with 100% certainty it’s true.
As many of you may know, each Monday night I ask my Instagram followers to confess their most saucy secrets and then I repost them anonymously. It really sparks up a rather dull weeknight and I can’t get enough of it. During my Saucy Secrets this week I posted one man’s confession about his wife giving him oral sex during work zoom meetings.
It stated: ‘My wife is such a tease, she loves walking around the house naked while I’m trying to work. Last week I had a company wide update to listen to and I find them boring. Not anymore. She gave me a BJ. Camera and microphone were off. Best company update ever! (I) Later returned the favour, b4 she went to work.’
Jana believes men like to be objectified – and has explained why
I thought it was a bit cheeky, had a giggle and then didn’t pay it too much further thought.
Well, that was until my DM’s started filling with messages from men saying ‘dream wife’ and ‘where do I find a woman like that’. One man boasted about his wife grabbing his hand in a dark movie theatre and making him do unquestionably raunchy things to her.
Oh, and another said he loves when his wife smacks his butt in public. It made me realise men love nothing more than a touch of objectification.
I mean, here was a guy bragging about the fact his wife was clearly treating him like her personal sex toy, whilst showing off her ‘exhibitionist’ style, and he couldn’t get enough of it.
Could it be the secret to a happy relationship?
Now don’t get me wrong, you don’t want to be objectifying men in the street. Sheesh we women already know what it’s like to feel leered at in public and it aint nice!
But in the right context, for example in a relationship, could a bit of objectification go a long way? I’ve seen ex-partners light up like a Christmas tree when I’ve walked past and pinched their butt, or had a cheeky squeeze of their biceps, or let out a ‘phwoooar’ when they’ve turned up to a date looking hot.
It all became glaringly obvious to me this week. This realisation even forced me to conduct my own personal investigation and I can say with 100% certainty it’s true
I’ve got one particular man friend, who loves nothing more than a ‘You up’ text from me.
And I think the real reason why men get quietly chuffed by all this attention is because it seems to be rare.
We hear so often about their gripes with not getting enough action between the bed sheets. And their constant woes about their wives never wanting it, so when it does happen they’re over the moon.
One friend said her husband almost went into cardiac arrest after she sent him a nude selfie one day out of the blue.
I also think this thirst for shameless objectification is spurred by a lack of self-confidence. I’m very aware of my own occasional shortcomings in that area, but I’ve never really thought about men experiencing it as well.
That was until I got back with an ex-boyfriend following a very brief affair with a stocky, muscular footy player.
The first time we did the deed following our reconciliation he kept apologising for his ‘Dad bod’ and made one too many jokes about not being ‘as fit as the last bloke.’
I couldn’t have given a hoot about his Dad bod, it was him as a whole person that turned me on. So, it took plenty of objectification to really build him back up.
I’ve got one particular man friend, who loves nothing more than a ‘You up’ text from me
I asked a close male friend if he was offended by being objectified he said ‘the very few times I’ve been objectified by women have admittedly felt incredibly affirming and awkwardly complimentary.
‘I think ‘Wow a woman still finds me attractive!’ If personal safety isn’t a concern, it’s very humbling to be found attractive and desirable to the opposite sex.’
So I wouldn’t suggest walking down the street and spanking the butt of the closest man you find a bit va va voom, but perhaps reach out to that special guy in your life and throw him a good ol’ ‘Phwoooar you look sexy AF’ next time you see him. He’ll love it!