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Tracey Cox shares her favourite sex games for couples

Tired of grey days, rain and being trapped inside?

Hang onto your headboard – and your partner – because things are about to get interesting!

Skip the box-set bingeing and instead try any (or all) of these sex games, designed to perk up your sex life and help you explore each other’s secret fantasies.

Relationship expert Tracey Cox reveals her cheekiest sex games to help get you through February – including giving your partner your underwear to wear


Make obscene phone calls

One of you goes outside or into another room, then calls the other, pretending they have no idea who they’ve just called – but have every intention of being shockingly rude.

Then make like a real obscene caller would: ‘What are you wearing?’, ‘I bet I could turn you on right now’.

Your partner acts shocked and outraged but then seems oddly turned on by it all and start turning the tables…

Dress for sex

When your partner is getting dressed to go somewhere without you, ask them to wear something in particular, just for you, and promise to do the same.

You might wear a particularly sexy bra under a very ordinary top to go visit your mother, he might wear a pair of your silky knickers under his jeans to visit his.

Seriously – most guys would kill to give this one a try for the simple fact that men never, ever get to wear fabrics like this.

It scores high on the novelty factor (though he’d best stick to the cubicle when others are in the loo!).

Tracey says that listening to a recording of yourself having sex is a great turn on 

Tracey says that listening to a recording of yourself having sex is a great turn on 

This works a treat, despite its simplicity, because the entire time you’re apart, you both stay focused on the fact you have a saucy secret.

Tell a tale

Make up an erotic story based on you and your partner – go into as much detail as possible – then type it or write it down and slip it somewhere unexpected so they’ll find it later that day.

If writing’s so not your thing, record it instead and send to their smart phone – preferably at a completely inopportune moment.

Be recording artists

Speaking of recordings…it’s definitely worth recording yourselves having sex. (If you’re the quiet types, up the moans and groans and talking dirty for the occasion.)

Play it back in the car when you’re on the way to somewhere you can’t possibly fool around; or share some headphones and listen to it on the tube.


Be flashers

Turn the lights off, then take it in turns to light one area of your own body with a torch.

Each lit body part must be touched, stroked and/or licked for two minutes, then the torch gets passed onto the next person.

One rule: you can’t shine it on the same body part more than once.

Play dress up

PVC nurse outfits, all-in-one cat suits, Sexy Superman gear, French Maid get ups – role-play outfits like these are cheap as chips these days if you look online.

Sure, they’re cheesy and scratchy as hell to wear but anything that transforms you both into other characters is a good thing.

This is especially perfect for couples who are so close that sex feels like having sex with a sibling: role-play pushes you out of cosy intimacy into a more fun, lusty place.


Fantasy dice

Try taking the phone into a separate room and act as a 'sex therapist' giving him guidance on exactly how to pleasure his partner

Try taking the phone into a separate room and act as a ‘sex therapist’ giving him guidance on exactly how to pleasure his partner

Write down and number the beginning of six fantasies (‘Suddenly I felt my girlfriend’s friend put her hand on my knee under the table. Even worse, she was really attractive’; ‘And there I was – in the middle of an orgy’), then take turns throwing the dice.

When the person lands on a number, they have to complete the corresponding fantasy out loud.

It’s a sneaky, not-too-embarrassing way to find out your partner’s secret turn-ons because we rarely make up a fantasy which doesn’t appeal to us.

If they don’t like where the fantasy is going, when it’s their turn, they’re turn it in a completely different direction.

Be a sex therapist

One of you (you) goes somewhere private to take a call from a ‘patient’ you’re trying to help.

The patient (him) rings and pretends to ask for advice on how to please their partner.

The therapist goes into lots of detail describing what would be a good way to do this – all, of course, your personal idea of heaven!

This is a cunning way to teach a not-so-great lover new tricks (if you like this one, get the patient to make an appointment, so the therapist can give ‘hands-on’ demonstrations of each technique).

Look, no hands!

Tie your partner’s hands together then ask them to seduce you.

They’ve got no option but to up the oral quotient by using their lips, teeth and tongue – or inventively explore interesting options using parts of themselves they wouldn’t usually dream of incorporating into love play.

If you really want to make things interesting, tie both of your hands behind your backs.

Play guinea pig

Grab all the sex toys you own (order some new ones if there’s a lone vibrator sitting forlornly on the table), then place them on a table in the bedroom, lined up in a formal fashion.

Call your partner while they’re at the shops and say they’re needed as a ‘test dummy’ for a project you’re working on.

When they arrive home, try out each and every toy on them: they have to rate them in order of pleasure.


Play a board game

There are dozens of sexy board games available from any good sex retailer website.

Choose from sexy dice games, spin the sex act wheels, Truth or Dare style formats, sexy Scrabble or hot sex position cards that list activities you must perform on your partner.

Play with food

Smear it, drip it on and lick it off – food is such a versatile sex prop, the possibilities are endless.

But don’t just think whipped cream, honey and paint-on chocolate sauce be inventive: go for avocados, mangoes, berries and bananas, hummus and strawberry jam.

Most foods (bar hot, spicy ones) are safe to smear on the outside of the genitals, but you do need to be careful inserting things.

(Sugary food can set off yeast infections; oily foods leave a film which has a nasty habit of ‘eating’ condoms because oil breaks down latex and never squirt or spray anything inside the genitals.)

Food isn’t just for smearing, by the way– some people actually eat it! Jumping into bed together, ready to devour a tray full of decadent goodies, is unbeatably hedonistic.

Choose bite-size finger foods which look, taste and feel sexy: smoked salmon, strawberries, grapes, chocolate, olives, oysters on ice, asparagus – and tuck in!

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