A pregnant transgender man has revealed he will let his child ‘choose his or her own gender’.
Business assistant Alex Alvarez, 25, from Los Angeles, California, who was raised as a woman, is eight months pregnant with his first child, who was conceived via an unknown sperm donor.
He will bring up the baby with his girlfriend Carla Gonzalez, 33, and their mutual friend, Cole James, 36, a gender queer, androgynous female.
The trio, who will live together, will allow their child to decide whether he or she would like to be raised as a boy or a girl and until then raise him or her as gender fluid.
Father-to-be: Alex Alvarez, 25, from Los Angeles, California, who was raised as a woman, is eight months pregnant with his first child
Alex and girlfriend Carla Gonzalez, 33, will raise the baby to choose his or her own gender
Alex, centre, and Carla, right, will live and raise the child with their friend, Cole James, 36, left
Alex said: ‘We want him or her to choose his or her own gender. I’ve got a nephew who is proud he is a man. He has chosen that, and that is great.
‘We will raise our child gender fluid, until they can choose what gender they wish to be.’
The three parents are not in a three-way relationship. Cole is currently making the home baby-friendly, so they can raise the baby together.
Alex continued: ‘The baby will have a trans father and two mothers.
Alex with his grandmother Tomasa at the baby shower this month, left, and at a rally last year
Alex, who was raised as a woman, realised he was transgender in his late teens and started hormone treatment at 19.
A year later, he met Carla, an executive assistant. Carla initially tried to carry a baby with an unknown sperm donor but suffered two miscarriages.
The couple then made the decision that Alex would try for a child and he fell pregnant earlier this year. Cole also dreamed of becoming a mother so the trio decided to co-parent.
Alex was raised as a woman but came out as transgender in his late teenage years
The father-to-be, pictured in July, hopes he will be able to breastfeed the baby
The father-to-be said he has encountered very few negative reactions to the pregnancy but that many people have ‘mixed feelings’.
He said: ‘Only close friends and family knew for the first 7 months. We then came out on social media with images and we only received good reactions to the pregnancy.
‘I don’t even look that pregnant. I’ve stopped taken hormones now, because of the baby, and even when I did I didn’t grow much facial hair. We aren’t a very hairy family. In big clothes and with coats on, you can’t really tell I am pregnant.’
Alex, right, and Carla decided to co-parent with Cole, left, who also wanted to be a mother
Now, preparing for a home birth, Alex is hoping he’ll be able to breast-feed and has said he was nervous about the baby arriving.
But Alex, who does not plan to have full gender reassignment surgery, knows he has a great support network around him – with his two mothers-to-be.
He added: ‘I’m hoping that we raise this baby with unconditional love and give them the chance to choose who they wish to be in this life.’