A single dad is looking forward to a very special Father’s Day this year after adopting his fifth disabled child.
Ben Carpenter, 35, from Huddersfield, West Yorkshire, who is dubbed a ‘super dad’ by his friends and family, initially only wanted to adopt one child when he was 21-years-old.
But ten years on, Mr Carpenter has just become a dad-of-five after finalising the adoption of his son Noah – who has a genetic condition known as Cornelia de Lange syndrome – and does not write off adopting more.
Ben Carpenter (pictured with Ruby, Joseph, Noah, Jack and Lily) 35, from Huddersfield, West Yorkshire, who is dubbed a ‘super dad’ by his friends and family, initially only wanted to adopt one child when he was 21-years-old
With a range of disabilities, his children, Jack, 11, Ruby, eight, Lily, six, Joseph, three, and Noah, one, all have complex needs, from Autism to Pierre Robin syndrome.
The full time dad, said: ‘Even at the age of 21 I knew I wanted to be a father as soon as possible – I may have only been young but I’ve always had an old head on my shoulders.
‘I was convinced with me being single as well that they wouldn’t take me seriously – but I was over the moon when they did.
Mr Carpenter has just become a dad-of-five after adopting Noah (pictured) – who has a genetic condition known as Cornelia de Lange syndrome
‘Due to previously working with disabled adults and children, I knew it was only right for me to adopt a disabled child because I knew I’d be able to care for them properly.
‘I originally saw an advertisement from local adoption social services looking for adoptive parents; and I thought, well, they’re not going to want me as a single guy.
‘But I told them who I was and where I worked and they were really positive and quite enthusiastic about me adopting a child.
‘Nine years on, I have five children and I wouldn’t change a thing.’
Jack has autism, Ruby has Pierre Robin syndrome and limited use of her arms because of missing bones, Lily is deaf and Joseph has Down Syndrome.
Noah’s rare syndrome and severe birth defects affect both his arms and legs but Mr Carpenter says since becoming part of the family it’s like he’s ‘always been there’.
He said: ‘Noah is great and has fit in to our family just perfectly and, to be honest, it’s like always been there!
‘His new brothers and sisters are great with him, Lily in particular is extremely maternal and helps me feed Noah and things.’
With a range of disabilities, his children, Jack (pictured), 11, Ruby (pictured), eight, Lily , six, Joseph, three, and Noah, one, all have complex needs, from Autism to Pierre Robin syndrome
But Mr Carpenter has not ruled out adopting again. The full time dad, said: ‘Even at the age of 21 I knew I wanted to be a father as soon as possible – I may have only been young but I’ve always had an old head on my shoulders’. Pictured: jack (left) and Joseph (right)
How many single parents adopt children?
Single people have been able to adopt from the earliest days of adoption and over the years many single people have successfully done so.
Around 10 per cent of children, 420 in total, adopted between 2012 and 2013 went to single adopters.
The parent should not be discriminated against just because they are single, regardless of their gender or sexual orientation.
It also has the benefit of not having to negotiate with a partner, so the parent can do their best for the child the way they want to.
Source: First 4 Adoption
The full time dad was never bothered about having biological children as he says adopting is just as good.
He added: ‘I’ve never wanted biological children because there’s much, much more than just being biologically linked to a child.
‘My children are my children – for example they have the same mannerisms as me.
‘Yes, they might not have the same blood as me, but who cares!’
Whilst Mr Carpenter is happy with brood – he hasn’t completely written off adopting more children.
He said: ‘I don’t currently plan on adopting more children but I’m one of these people who never says never.
‘If in the future a child really needed me and my help, I’m sure I would end up adopting them.
‘I definitely see myself fostering more children though – I just love being a dad.’
Mr Carpenter explained how he instantly ‘fell in love’ with Noah when he first saw him and knew he needed to join his family.
Mr Carpenter (receiving his father’s Day card) added: ‘I definitely see myself fostering more children though – I just love being a dad’
Jack has autism, Ruby (left) has Pierre Robin syndrome and limited use of her arms because of missing bones, Lily (right) is deaf and Joseph has Down Syndrome
The dad-of-five said: ‘I was flicking through an adoption magazine that comes from monthly featuring children who are deemed as ‘hard to place’ children, when I came across this picture of a little baby by quite clearly had severe complex needs.
‘I thought to myself this little boy needs to join our family where he can be part of something special, but more importantly someone who can accept him and his disability.
‘I instantly fell in love with him what with his mass of brown hair and his beautiful blue eyes I knew instantly I wanted him to be by son.’
Mr Carpenter has remained single since the young age of 21 and doesn’t plan on looking for a relationship any time soon with his dad duties being the most important thing to him.
Mr Carpenter explained how he instantly ‘fell in love’ with Noah when he first saw him and knew he needed to join his family
He added: ‘I have never sought a relationship, as I am happy on my own.
‘Whenever I have at times visualised myself in a relationship and each time I have it always leads to the same conclusion: that my children will always come first.
‘I would literally walk over hot coals to protect them and provide for them so it’s very easy decision.
‘Anyone can be a father but it takes someone special to be a dad.’