I’m into a specific bedroom kink many would argue is ‘creepy’, writes JANA HOCKING, but so are millions of other women… they just haven’t told you yet
- Jana Hocking is into ‘praise kink’ in the bedroom
- It involves being called a ‘good girl’ and praised during the act
- She’s not alone, the term has had more than 60m views on TikTok
So there’s a sexual fetish doing the rounds at the moment and I for one am very much on board with it.
It’s horrendously self-centred, slightly narcissistic, and probably a bit shameless to admit to… but it’s called ‘Praise kink’ and it has had a whopping 60 million views on TikTok so clearly I’m not the only one lapping it up.
The kink involves people who get off on hearing how wonderful they are (especially in the bedroom). So if you are like me and you go a bit wild when your fella calls you a ‘good girl’ while getting it on between the sheets… welcome, you are part of the ‘praise kink’ tribe.
Jana Hocking is into ‘praise kink’ – receiving a form of praise anytime, but particularly in the bedroom
Other popular praises that people in this tribe like to hear include: ‘You’re doing such a great job’, ‘Your boobs look amazing from this angle’, ‘You’re so good at that’ and ‘Baby, you feel amazing.’ Okay, full disclosure… that’s what I get off on, but others do too.
And it’s not just in the bedroom that we fellow ‘praise kink-ers’ like to hear words of affirmation, oh no. Discussing it with a friend the other day, she told me that she got all hot and bothered when a guy she was going on a second date with literally stood up and gave her a clapping standing ovation when she rocked up to their date in a killer outfit. The praise was real, and the pay-off was certainly worth the standing O.
I’m lucky enough to enjoy this serotonin rush every time my interstate lover calls me beautiful. (Side note: eww ‘lover’ is such a gross word but that’s basically what he is). Sometimes he will simply answer the phone with ‘Hello beautiful’ in this deep sexy voice that drives my wild. I turn into this big swooning mess. Why? Because I’m on a praise kink high.
What is ‘praise kink’ and what phrases can you use?
Praise kink, which is sometimes known as ‘affirmation play’ or a good girl kink, involves the dominant or top showering their partner with compliments, kind words, and other sorts of praise.
Obviously, receiving praise and being told that you are valued, and valuable feels good. You’ve probably felt something similar if you ever received a compliment for your hard work on a project for work or school. However, with praise kink, that euphoric feeling is magnified and sexually charged!
There’s another reason why some people are attracted to praise kink, though. Receiving kind words can be a bit embarrassing. Anyone who struggles to take a compliment knows what we’re talking about.
You have a fantastic body
I adore your breasts
What a perfect pout
You have the most adorable smile
You have perfect lips for kissing
You always dress to turn me on
Your calves drive me wild
I love the way you [sexual activity]
Source: Bad Girls Bible
Those small moments of praise prove that your person is solely focused on you in that moment, and who doesn’t love that? I mean come on, it’s basically like they’re worshipping you.
And I would go so far as saying I think it’s a kink everyone needs to embrace. No longer are we going gaga for the blokes who don’t text us back or play hard to get, nope we’re getting horny for the guys who adore us. The ones who call us baby and make us feel a million dollars. See you later bad boys, you’re so 2022. This year is all about the praise boys. Actually let’s clarify that… praise men.
The best thing about this kink is that it doesn’t come with a consent-clause, which we all know is super important when it comes to trying new kinky things in the bedroom. Nope, your only job is to show praise.
I was talking to another friend about it this week, and she said whenever she’s talking to her boyfriend about her day and he drops a casual ‘good girl’ into the conversation, she literally wants to rip off all his clothes and jump him right there and then. I pondered it for a hot second and agreed, there is nothing hotter than a guy inserting a bit of praise kink into a casual conversation. I remember a male friend did it to me once, and I looked at him in a whole new saucy way.
Those small moments of praise prove that your person is solely focused on you in that moment, and who doesn’t love that? I mean come on, it’s basically like they’re worshipping you
What is your sex language?
The sensual type
This sex language refers to someone who loves taste and smell when it comes to the bedroom. They ‘bring their artistry’ and ‘want to walk into a beautiful setting when they’re coming into their erotic play’.
The energetic type
This is someone who is turned on by anticipation, space, tease, longing, yearning, and is also ‘very sensitive’.
The sexual type
The sexual type is someone who is turned on by what we think of as ‘adult content’ in our culture – such as nudity, genitals, orgasm, penetration. Those who have a sexual type are often turned-on pretty easily and can go from zero to 100 quickly.
The kinky type
Unlike the previous sex languages, the kinky type is someone who is turned on by taboo – whether this is something psychological or physical sensation-based. On the psychological end of the spectrum, this kink is where power dynamics are involved.
The shapeshifter type
The shapeshifter type refers to someone’s who can be turned on in every possible way – sensual, sexual, kinky and energetic. The superpower of a shapeshifter is that they can shapeshift to be an amazing lover to anyone.
I’ve also discovered that it’s ridiculously sexy to offer praise out, not just accept it. For example, if you’re getting all hot and heavy, why not throw out a compliment yourself. Watch how your partner lights up as you tell him he’s amazing in bed. Not only do they feel special, but they also put in more effort. Win win I say.
So if you want to try it for yourself, why not start slow. Start calling them baby, tell them how good it feels when they do a move you like, or surprise them with a loving text. Or do as my friends date did, give them a damn standing ovation next time you think they look good.
Unlike other kinks, this is a super easy one to do and doesn’t require any skills or special trips to an adult store. You just need a good vocabulary and the right attitude. Extra points if you’re a bloke with a deep sexy voice. Va Va Voom!
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