A woman has revealed that her colleagues are calling her a ‘snitch’ after she got three of her male co-workers fired for making a ‘hot list’ ranking the female employees in the office.
Reddit user HRFiring shared her story on the ‘AmItheA**hole’ forum this week, admitting that even though she ‘hated the way they were talking about women,’ she didn’t think they should have been fired.
In her post, she explained that a bunch of people from her department went out for drinks after work when she heard one of her co-workers say her name as she left the bathroom.
Not OK: A Reddit user has revealed she got three men from her office fired after she reported that they had made a ‘hot list’ ranking the women in her department (stock image)
‘I overheard a conversation of three guys in my department making a “hot list” (they actually referred to it as that), which involved ranking every woman in the department from first to last. I was upset and disturbed,’ she wrote, noting that she was ‘quite friendly’ with two of them.
‘Yesterday morning I tell HR and they state that they have a zero-tolerance policy for actions like this. All three men were fired first thing this morning, and now I feel terrible,’ she said.
‘I hated the way they were talking about women, but I didn’t think they should be fired.’
However, she admitted that she works for a large company and knew it was a possibility that they would have been let go when she complained.
‘Nobody knows that I am the person who reported them, and I’ve overheard people say that the person is a “snitch,”‘ she explained. ‘I’m wondering if I should have just confronted them at the bar and told them how it made me feel instead, but at the time I didn’t feel comfortable doing that.
‘I especially feel bad because I had a fairly good relationship with two of the guys,’ she added.
Although she feels guilty about how things turned out, many people agreed that she did the right thing by going to HR.
Not your fault: Although she feels guilty about how things turned out, many people agreed that she did the right thing by going to HR
‘It wasn’t your actions that got them fired – it was their actions that got them fired,’ one person commented. ‘Until people realize how offensive and damaging treating women as objects is, it will continue to be an issue in the workforce.
‘HR didn’t get them fired. Their own actions did,’ another wrote.
‘Technically, they got themselves fired. HR just told them,’ someone else added.
Others accused the woman of being a hypocrite, pointing out she had edited her original post to remove the part where she admitted she has talked about which guys in her office are attractive.
‘I’ve spoken to my girlfriends about which guys are hot. I’ve never ranked all of them. But that’s not even the concern – I absolutely would not rank guys at a work event that they are at. That’s where I think the line was crossed,’ she allegedly wrote.
Some said they were on her side until they found out she has essentially been doing the same thing.
‘So you’re fine with talking about coworkers being hot, but no one else can? How is what they did so much worse just because they ordered their list?’ one Reddit user asked.
Debate: Others accused her of being a hypocrite, pointing out she had edited her original post to remove the part where she admitted she’s talked about which guys in her office are ‘hot’
‘She admits to doing the exact same thing, just in a less structured manner,’ another stressed.
After receiving numerous comments people from people accusing her of reporting the list simply because she was unhappy with her ranking, she edited her post again to make clear that wasn’t the case.
‘A lot of people are insisting that I am upset because I was low on the list,’ she wrote. ‘I tried to avoid making this the focus, but with all the comments I feel like I have to address it.
‘I was high on the list, and was not offended about my placement; I was offended about the fact that they were making a list in the first place. I hate that I even have to write this.’
She went on to say that she has ‘gotten numerous personal messages’ calling her ‘ugly,’ a b***h,’ ‘fat,’ and a ‘psycho.’
‘I really think something needs to be done about this sub, although admittedly I’m not sure what, because I can’t believe this is the response for somebody using this sub for its intended purpose,’ she commented.
‘Update: I will be speaking to HR about the messages I received,’ she added flippantly.