Mother is left devastated after her long term partner fails to propose on Christmas Day despite dropping hints – but is advised to ‘simply set a wedding date herself’
- Anonymous British woman shared the disappointment of not getting engaged
- She expected her partner of five years to propose to her on Christmas Day
- She said the father of her child, has been saying he can’t afford to buy a ring
- Mumsnet users urged her to take control instead of waiting for him to propose
A woman who convinced herself that her partner would propose on Christmas Day, has been urged to take matters into her own hands after she was left disappointed.
Writing on British parenting site Mumsnet, the woman explained that she and her partner have been together for five years and have a child together, and have discussed getting married when their finances in order.
Explaining that he had done enough overtime to save for a ring and had even dropped hints, she was left disaappointed when he did not propose at Christmas.
However users on the site said she should simply set a date without waiting for the proposal, with one user writing: ‘You are not a passenger in your own life. Just tell him you want to get married and plan on setting a date. He’ll either go along with it or refuse. Either way you’ll know where you stand.’
A British woman took to Mumsnet to reveal her despair that her partner of five years, who she has a child with, didn’t propose on Chirstmas Day – despite them discussing marriage at great lengths
The woman had revealed in the thread that her partner has saved enough money to be able to afford a ring over the past year, despite previous financial struggles – in addition to speaking about ring sizes.
‘There’s been so many hints and I’m just confused like for example about a month ago me and DP were talking abut a ring that he’d brought me years ago, I was saying how I feel I need it fixed cause pf a small diamond falling out.
‘He randomly came out with ‘I bet you don’t know what your ring size is now do you?’ He then asked to look at the ring and put it on his baby finger whilst he was looking at it… AIBU to be feeling so down about this or am I just been really silly?,’ she asked.
One person responded: ‘If it means that much to you why can’t you propose? To be honest though, him saying he didn’t have the money for a ring sounds like an excuse. Don’t need an expensive ring to propose to someone if you really want to.’
Another wrote: ‘Why wouldn’t you ask him? I ‘proposed’ to mine. As with everything in life, if you really want something you have to do something for it.’
Many responses to the post came from those urging the woman to take control by proposing to him instead of waiting for a ring
Others urged the woman to consider that her partner may not want to get married, or may choose a less popular time of year to propose.
‘OP you are sad because deep down you know he does not want to marry you and forget all this BS about modern women, modern men, we don’t need a piece of paper – men will always, always, marry the woman they really love – because they want the legal commitment to her,’ wrote one.
Another said: ‘Have you ever considered that perhaps your DP would like to plan how HE proposes to you without you constantly dropping hints and expecting it?
‘Generally men like to be the one to control this thing so if you carry on speaking about it, it’ll literally take even longer. I think there’s nothing worse than being proposed to on Christmas Day. It’s not original at all! Just enjoy spending time as a family and the rest will fall into place.’
A third added: ‘The problem is you’re stuck now because you’ve had a child and he knows it. He knows he can continue not to propose and you won’t (can’t) leave. He doesn’t want to marry you.’
Others told the woman that her partner may not want to get married or might suggest a different time of year to propose